http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspxBy Paul Goldman, NBC News Producer In August 2002, 19-year-old Sergeant Kevin Cohen was guarding an Israeli settlement in the Gaza Strip. At 7 a.m. he was shot dead by a Palestinian sniper. It was that bullet that killed Kevin and his dream, whichen-USCommunityServer 2.0 (Build: 60608.1)http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33755Thu, 18 Jan 2007 15:54:13 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33755Jo Melendez, Bayamon, PRI think some people don't know hoe to let go. her son wanted a child when he was ALIVE to see him/her grow. She is creating an ORPHAN!!! You can be raised by grandparents, as I was. but you still an orphan.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33757Thu, 18 Jan 2007 15:54:18 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33757Jo MelendezI think some people don't know hoe to let go. her son wanted a child when he was ALIVE to see him/her grow. She is creating an ORPHAN!!! You can be raised by grandparents, as I was. but you still an orphan.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33759Thu, 18 Jan 2007 15:55:32 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33759Gary A. Markette". . . finely one was chosen"? I think you mean "finally, one was chosen." Perhaps you could use an editor. I'm available, but not cheap. Gary A. Markette --Wordslinger "More than 30 years of quality technical documentation." *************************************** Like detective stories? Read my blog at http://wordslinger01.spaces.live.com/ http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33761Thu, 18 Jan 2007 15:56:16 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33761Esme Jones, St. Louis, MOThis woman doesn't need a grandchild, she needs a grief counselor.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33763Thu, 18 Jan 2007 15:56:39 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33763Sara B, South Bend, IN How absolutely creepy.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33768Thu, 18 Jan 2007 15:58:52 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33768PAM CORAL SPRINGS FLA.I THINK THIS IS WONDERFUL AND SO SAD THAT THE MOTHER OF A SON SHE WISHED TO HONOR, HAD TO GO THROUGH SO MUCH. THIS IS A PLACE WHERE THE COURTS SHOULDN'T BE INVOLVED,THEY HAVE BETTER THINGS TO DO THAN FIGHT OVER SPERM. THEN AGAIN MAYBE THIS IS A RELIGIOUS THING, I DON'T KNOW. THANK GOD NOW A SON, A MOTHER AND GRANDMOTHER WILL FINALLY COME TO BE.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33769Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:00:15 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33769Janewhat purpose does doing this serve? it sounds pretty selfish to me.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33771Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:00:32 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33771Karen Munster, Pittsburgh, PASo she can tell a picture of her son that he has a child but then she has to tell the child he has no father. And this is right? To me, it's very, very wrong.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33772Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:01:07 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33772gigi, williamsport PAI think this is a wonderful result for this poor boys mother. There should have been no reason for this mother to have to fight this in court as her son was defending our country.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33773Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:01:20 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33773steve Waukesha, WIThis kind of stuff is just wacky. Heavy on the sarcasm, but what's next? A guy having a couple of extra arms sewn on so he can do more at once? Race horses with extra legs so that they can run extra fast? Things should be kept as natural as possible. To go to lengths like this mother/grandmother is getting pretty "out there". I guess I'm kind of happy for her but mostly shocked at the lengths people will go to to avoid a hardship. Then again...if they're a cure or a chance to save someone's life, let's do it. This is a tough one, isn't it? http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33774Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:01:51 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33774Mark Biagioli, Port Charlotte, FloridaThis is just wrong. To bring a child into this world after the death of the father is placing an un due burden and grief upon an innocent child who will NEVER know its father. It is just plain selfish of the woamn to want to do this.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33776Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:02:27 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33776Patty CaffeeI understand the heart of a woman, who wants to be a grandmother, my daughter has been married for 9 yrs. and is having trouble conceiving. BUT, isn't there a point when we go to far, trying to be God, to do what only God should do? If my daughter never got pregnant, it would be ok. I understand that this lady doesn't have the privilege of her son being there, but, hopefully she does have great memories.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33778Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:03:19 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33778Mary LeMay, Gladstone, MIGod bless and good luck. You deserve to be a grandmother and I send all my condolences for you loss of your son, and send all the luck in your future as a grandma!!!!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33779Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:03:33 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33779Jade, Castle Rock COThis is very interesting. I can see where the grandparents are coming from, but then I think of the child & he/she will purposelly never know their father. Hearing stories & living through other peoples memories is not the same as having that person there in the flesh. Also, just because the grandparents pick a certain woman to finish the process does not mean that the son would have chosen that woman. But, good luck to the people who chose to go this route.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33780Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:03:44 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33780Matthew F, Cincinnati, OhioSeriously--not only is it wrong since the son is dead, and has been for 4 years, but how do you explain that to the child: "You were born because I froze my son's sperm after his death, then advertised for a woman to carry and deliver you." I know that losing a relative is very difficult, and a child would be the most difficult, but using your dead son's sperm to conceive a grandchild is wrong. Also, how is a parent entitled to the sperm of their child. I own my sperm, not my mother--that would just be weird. Medical science has overtaken nature. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33781Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:03:50 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33781David Moore, Milford MAI hope for a happy ending for Mrs. Cohen 9 months from now. A grandchild should provide some comfort to her that, after a fashion, her son still lives on.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33783Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:04:12 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33783S., Minneapolis,MNThis is the strangest thing I've ever heard. Part of me thinks this is really very selfish when so many wait to be adopted. There is another part of me though, and that part is the one that knows that there is a vial of sperm frozen in a clinic belonging to my partner who has cancer. Just this morning I was wondering if I would use any of that sperm if he were to pass away. He signed the paperwork making the sperm mine if he does pass away so legally I could get pregnant. I'm not against single parents, I was a single mother for 6 years and I know children can be healthy and very well adjusted with just one parent. I think the strangest part of this story is that it's the mother of the son wanting the grandchild so badly that she has sperm harvested from her dead son. It makes me uncomfortable, but at the same time, I would do anything to make my son's wishes come true too. But how do we really know it was her son's wishes? I think about how many times my mom says things about me that are so wrong. I wonder if she even knows who I am sometimes. I think it's a tough call and those commenting should just remember both sides of this issue.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33784Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:04:36 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33784Mari Roberts Phoenix, AZI'm reading this at work and I am so overwelmed by this mothers love of her son. I will pray for a healthy and happy grandchild for her as I am a grnadmother of two. I would also think tht I would do the same thing if this happened to me. GOD BLESS.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33785Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:04:56 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33785Paul R Harris Jr., Yukon, OklahomaWhat happen to love? Is there not enough fatherless children in the world already? Being a father and being a sperm donor are two different things altogether.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33786Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:05:01 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33786Paul, Buffalo, MNGrammar Check. Lots of errors near the end, not necessarily a good thing to see from an NBC Producer.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33787Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:05:08 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33787Lori Russell, Winchester, VAThis has to be one of the weirdest things I've ever read. I sympathize with this woman who has lost her son but I think she has gone too far. It seems as though she is trying to replace her son with a grandchild. And now, another child will have to grow up without a father. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33788Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:05:34 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33788Missy, Reedsburg, WIThis is not a case of the son wanting a child. It is a mother who cannot let go of her deceased child. The man was 19 yrs old and may have stated he would one day like a child but I doubt that he would've wanted the unreasonable measures taken to ensure that there would one day be another Fatherless child in the world. The deceased man's mother needs professional help. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33791Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:05:57 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33791MichelleOk now that's creepy. And not far to the child. The child will be confused. His/Her father passed four to five years before His/Her birth. I think that is very selfish of the mother of the young man. And I am truely sorry for her loss and thank her son for his service. My heart feels for her.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33792Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:06:08 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33792Katie Delavan WIAfter this baby is born, will there be a custody battle? Does this give the grandmother rights over this child, which will cause more time in the courtroom??http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33793Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:06:21 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33793IngaThere are already too many people on this earth........I think she's crazy and so are the Israeli courts. Just idiots.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33795Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:06:29 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33795t money, long beach CAits cool!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33796Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:06:32 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33796Dawn Cleveland, OHThat's alot to handle for a child that isn't born yet. Where is the protection for the childs rights?http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33797Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:07:10 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33797Alice Sure, and now there will be yet another boy raised without a father with all the "issues" that go with it.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33799Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:08:41 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33799Robin, Washington, D.C.Where is the consent from the actual father? He didn't consent to having his sperm extracted for this use, nor to the choice of mother for his unborn child. Creepy.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33800Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:08:50 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33800M. C.Will the son's mother be a part of the grandchild's life. Or is the woman free to raise the child on her own as in the case of anonymous donations. Basically the mother is looking for a daughter in law for her dead son.......cause that is what would have to happen in order for the grandmother to see her son's child.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33801Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:08:56 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33801JC, Los Angeles, CAThere are so many children in this world without any parents at all. I think adoption would be a better way to give a grandchild to this woman. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33803Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:09:08 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33803ANGIE LOS ANGELES CA.VERY TOUCHY AND BRAVE WOMAN,IN MY CASE I WILL DO THE SAME TO PRESERVE THAT WISH.NEVER COME TO THIS CLOSE ABOUT THIS ONE.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33804Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:09:13 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33804Inga, Dallas TXThere are already too many people on this earth........I think she's crazy and so are the Israeli courts. Just idiots.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33805Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:09:23 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33805Anna S, NJThis is beyond creepy. I am surprised she didn't decide to be impregnated by her son's sperm. How can a 19-year old wish to continue his legacy with a child? This is all the mother's decision and will. She just wants a semi-clone of her son. Poor soldier just had his privates vandalized after an honorable death to extract the sperm for his mother. I cannot imagine saying to my mother - "Mom, if something happens to me, please extract my eggs and hatch them as you deem feasible." Very disturbing.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33807Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:09:48 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33807Teresa Walls, Ransomville, NYI don't think we should change the course of nature. If we are suppose to have children, it will happen in our lifetime. God has his plan for all of us, with or without children.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33808Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:09:53 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33808Desiree, Little Rock, ARThis is so bad...absolutely unthinkable. It is as bad as the people who clone their pets. Aren't there enough children in the world already who are waiting for adoption? http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33809Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:10:01 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33809Joan, Tomahawk, WIThis is SO stupid; I can't believe that a court of ANY kind would allow this to happen; where do we draw the line for ethics?http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33810Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:10:03 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33810jason b winnipeg mbwow how freakish is it to have a dead man s sperm used to inseminat a embryo. we are a desprate sick cruel unusal society bent on our own self serving in dulgences http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33811Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:10:28 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33811Jackson, Columbus, OHI think this is just weird.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33812Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:10:34 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33812Elle, WDCI admit it is a little weird, but who are we to judge? And for all the comments about the child not having a father, that's just rubbish. How many kids in the world don't have a mother/father? Woman go to sperm banks and fertility clinics all the time. Plus, there are kids who have parents who aren't worth a crap, at least this kid will have a grandmother who cherishes he or she. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33813Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:11:05 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33813Rachel, Bellevue, NECreepy. I could understand a wife wanting to but a mother? Who would ever volunteer for the job of carrying that child. Yuck.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33814Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:11:08 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33814Sherif, New York, NYI think that's just plain weird. Only in Israel, could something so bizare happen. Maybe if he wasn't guarding an illegal settlement on occupied land, he could've lived and fathered a child like normal human beingshttp://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33815Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:11:17 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33815Mika, Pottstown, PAThis is absolutely disgusting. If one of my daughters were to pass away, I wouldn't harvest their ovaries for eggs. This brings up other issues such as child support, custody, death benefits -- will the child be entitled since the father was dead years before the child was born? As a Mother, I would not do this. It's immoral, perverse and unethical. This woman clearly needs mental & grief counseling...This should have been the courts verdict.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33816Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:11:28 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33816Kay Zerbarini, Abington, MAHe "supposedly" told his mother that he wanted to have a child. I am sure he mentioned it in conversation but did not say "if I die, extract my sperm and make me a daddy" I think mom needs emotional help with the loss. Poor child that may be born from this.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33817Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:11:36 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33817Amanda, Toledo, OHMaybe I'm just being closed minded, but this is one of the most ridiculous things I've heard. I am all for people's wishes being carried out after their passing, but a child? I would imagine that the man wanted a child to raise, love, and be a part of his/her life. All that this process does is have him be involved in the conceivement of the child, only the physical. Why doesn't the mother (grandmother to be) adopt a child in his memory instead? Just my opinion, for what it's worth.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33818Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:11:38 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33818C. Thompson. LouisvilleSo this child will be born in Israel?? Will she get to see her grandchild??? If I am incorrect on this and they will be living in America, will this child get social security for their dead parent? It would seem ok if it were the mans wife and they had discussed this prior, but this sounds like a classic case of some one needing to cut the umbilical cord to mommy.. how sad for this child!!!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33819Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:12:02 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33819Jason Greer Auburn, Maine Sounds like a good start to a plot of a Van Damme movie or something.Next the kids grows up and gets revenge 25 years later for his father's death....http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33820Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:12:09 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33820B. James, Pocatello, IdahoI agree with Sara B. and Esme. The whole situation is very sad, and totally creepy. I think children deserve to have two parents. If it was so important to him to have a child, he should have found a woman to do that with while he was alive. I think there are a lot of questions beyond who has control of biological/reproductive fluids of a dead person. Does the "finely" chosen woman get to keep the baby and raise it by herself, or does the grandmother have plans to raise the baby by herself? What kind of therapy are does this kid have in his/her future? Why do all weird stories about dead people involve a family member and a dream? It's a little too Sylvia Brown for me. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33821Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:12:21 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33821J.R. Finger Kannapolis, NCI have 3 children and those children need me to be there as a Dad. Bringing a child into the world without a father is downright wrong. This woman is being extremely selfish in denying this future child a patriarchial figure. She is treating the child as a object or an objective in and of itself and not like the divine child of God he or she would be.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33822Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:12:34 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33822Michelle, Raleigh NCThis is absolutely disturbing. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33823Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:12:51 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33823sharie Allen St Michael BarbadosTHAT IS SO STRANGE. HOPE YOU KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GETTING INTO WHAT IF YOU DO NOT LIVE TO SEE THE CHILD BORN WHAT HAPPENS NEXT?http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33824Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:13:02 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33824Teresa Johns Hopkinsville KYWas he the last of his line? Will the family name die out with him? Now comes the question of whether or not to abort the child based on the sex the "mother/grandmother" wants. Let go and let God.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33825Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:13:03 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33825Carla, Marble Hill, MOI totally disagree with this. It would have been different if he had a wife and was planning on having children. I think the mother is trying to get her son back any way that she can, and I can't blame her for that. There are plenty of kids in this world who could use a adoptive grandma. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33827Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:13:05 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33827Andrea, Chandler AZ Wow, I had no idea that sperm was still alive when somebody dies. However, I think this is absolutely twisted. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33828Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:13:05 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33828K, Ventura CaliforniaWhy be so judgmental with a mother trying to complete the dream of her child? Her love didn't die when he did.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33829Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:13:09 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33829charlene,viera,flyou are playing with god this is wronghttp://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33831Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:13:24 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33831Leerona, New York, New YorkThe dead son has a child, but the child has a dead father. That works out...?http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33832Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:13:43 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33832May Verdugo, Riverside, California I can symphathize with this mother's grief of losing a sibling, this is a sad situation indeed however, I do not feel she has the right to fulfill her own needs at the expense of a child.. Being a grandmother of 7 I am very fortunate. I hope she can heal and pray she has done the right thing. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33833Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:13:48 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33833Jacini, Pensacola, FLWhy can't people mind their own business? Who are you people to hold this woman in contempt?! You obviously have never given birth or know what it is to have dreams of watching your child grow up, attending that child's wedding and seeing your baby with their baby. To all of you who have posted comments of support for this woman, GOOD FOR YOU. To all of you who posted negative remarks, GET A LIFE! She doesn't need a grief counselor, she's not selfish, it's not creepy and it's not wrong. I've raised a child with no father...so freaking what?! Women have kids with no father EVERY DAY in this country. It's people like you that make this world such a terrible place!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33834Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:13:55 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33834Nettie, St. Louis, MOI agree with the above. This woman is grief stricken beyond belief. That should be addressed. And my personal thoughts are that in nature: Dead mendon't father children. There is probably a reason for that and I don't think we should mess with that balance. Onthe other hand, if the soldier DID, in fact wish things this way, then I can see no alternative for his mother other than to try to carry out those last wishes. I have my doubts about this being his wishes, however and wonder more if they aren't her ownhttp://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33835Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:14:02 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33835KellyI think it is ultimatley the families decision on what happens to this mans sperm. Creepy? Maybe to some, but to bring another fatherless child into this world is just selfish and unnessasary. The mans dream of having a child was "his" dream, I dont think this is what he intended. This shouldnt even be an option. The mother needs grief counseling for sure.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33836Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:14:03 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33836Candice, Mt. GIlead, OhioWHAT IN THE WORLD!!??!! That is just creepy. If he had a widow that would be one thing, but the mother asking for sperm to create a grandchild with a person her son never knew? WEIRD PEOPLE OUT THERE.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33837Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:14:06 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33837Dorothy Little Rock ArThis is sad, She is only being selfish. This is not God,s way. He said husband and wife come together and make a child, Yes this is religious that,s all that matter to chirstians. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33838Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:14:16 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33838Jack Komorowski, Acsecon, N.J.Sick, sick, sick. There are lots of poeple that want to be grandpartents, but aren't. Thius is NOT the way to go. She has no real bond with the mother to be, and will have no bond with her "grandchild, should she prove to be a pain to the mother oif that child. She has no legal basis to be called grandmother.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33839Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:14:22 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33839Chad, Lincolnton, North CarolinaThis woman has to be insane! See a grief counselor and GET OVER IT LADY!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33840Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:14:34 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33840Jaqui, Shreveport, LASo who will raise the child, the mother or the grandmother? Is it wise for a grandmother to assume she will live long enough to raise a grandchild to adulthood? Is it fair to a child to not only not have a father figure but to be raised by a woman ... well... "old enough to be his grandmother"? What kind of emotional baggage does this situation put on the child's slender shoulders? Was ANY thought given to the child that would be born?http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33841Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:14:42 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33841Fort Lauderdale, FloridaHow bad do you want to mess up a childs life? Hi I'me little tommy, I have never seen my father because he died 5 years prior to my birth. My mother is from Israeli, and a lady that told me she is my grandmother is from America. This mother needs to give this whole process alot of thought after a few years of counseling.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33842Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:14:44 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33842Moral Beacon of LightIs anyone else worried about becoming Dr. Frankenstein?? When we have the capability to artificially create a humanbeing from the cells of another dead humanbeing, where do we draw the line? Is it okay for this woman to do it, but not okay for someone to father a child of say, Hitler or a serial killer. My thanks to the soldier for doing his duty, but at some point we changed the definition of the word DEAD!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33843Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:14:53 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33843Callie MarieWho is this mother to try and play God. If he wasn't meant to have a child in this life then that is how it should have been. This is very wrong and now she has to tell this child that his father is dead and he will never know him. This mother does need therapy and she is being very selfish. I strongly oppose of this. Who are we to play God? Everything happens for a reason. It was her sons time to go and that is how it should be. Yes it is tragic but to go to the extent she did is sick and wrong. She has mental issues that need to be looked athttp://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33845Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:15:01 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33845Jack Komorowski, Acsecon, N.J.Sick, sick, sick. There are lots of poeple that want to be grandparents, but aren't. This is NOT the way to go. She has no real bond with the mother to be, and will have no bond with her "grandchild, should she prove to be a pain to the mother oif that child. She has no legal basis to be called grandmother.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33846Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:15:08 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33846James Bowe, Albany NYgigi: He was an Israeli soldier. He was not defending our country at all. Does that change your outlook? Only American soldiers are heroes right?http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33847Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:15:37 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33847Priscilla, Fort Lauderdale Fl.totally weird.... why would someone put a child through that? not having a father at all? umm yeah, creepy and weird! I wouldnt want that. Best of luck to them though... whatever floats their boat....http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33848Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:15:44 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33848Becky Chiado Richmond, MN I think no one should knowingly become a single mom. I have 3 children who's father committed suicide and I know how much they go through without a father. They have to explain a lot to kids in school and things like that. It messes with kids heads and should be avoided. I know that grief does weird things to people but you have to grieve and move on and not live in the past.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33849Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:15:55 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33849Michelle RobertsI just cannot agree with this. A child should be concieved between two people who love each other and want to combine their genes and create a human being. This young man apparently wasn't married to anyone. How selfish of this woman to bring this child into this world just because her son had once stated that he wanted a child some day. Apparently it wasn't God's will that he have one or he would have found his mate and fathered a child before getting killed.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33850Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:16:11 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33850susie, gainesvilleI do feel for this mother at the loss of her son, but this is so wrong. I can't even begin to think of how this will be explained to the child. What will she do if the mother she has chosen at some point cuts all ties with her and refuses to let her see the child. Where the bar fall legally? I agree with the writer above, this mother needs grief counselling. The pressure that is going to be on this child will be hard to live up to. Taking sperm from a dead child, 72 year old women having babies, it is beginning to get weird.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33851Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:16:36 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33851June Behrens, Niagara Falls New Yorkwhat rights will the carring mother have and what if the birthmother marries or wants nothing to do with the "grandmother"?http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33852Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:16:41 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33852Wesley Monroe, GaThis woman is an idiot!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33853Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:16:49 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33853Beth Baker, Hawk Springs, WYI pray God will give this woman peace over the loss of her son. She cannot bring him back with this potential grandchild. Her attempts might prove in vain if this woman cannot carry the child to term. There are no gaurantees in life. I'm so sorry for this womans loss and pray that she suffers no further loss in this heartbreaking situation.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33854Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:16:51 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33854Kali, Dana Point, CAWhat happens when the grandma eventually dies? The child will be all alone in this world. How can this woman be so selfish in doing this? It's like saying, "Oh, I've always wanted a puppy, and then getting one, then you die and the puppy goes to the animal shelter." The outcome doesn't look so good.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33855Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:16:51 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33855Michael BCould this be any more bizarre? Perhaps she and Cindy Sheehan could get together and exploit their son's deaths to an even wider audience. That child will be in foster care within 9 months, after the mother's inevitible breakdown.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33856Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:16:55 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33856Maggie, St. Paul, MNSo does this mean that every man who has ever donated sperm is a father, as well? What gives the grandmother the right to decide her son ought to be a father? A dream? Gee, that's reliable. Is this even healthy for the baby (biologically speaking...how long do sperm live after a body's death, and are they really safe to use, or is that baby at greater risk for genetic defects?)? Don't we already have overpopulation problems without dead parents having children too?http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33857Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:17:07 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33857Danielle H, Bronx NYAs long as there will be love for this child and a proper home why should it be viewed any different then any other IVF. The woman willing to have the child is still like every other woman willing to use IVF to have a child. The major difference in the story is that even with the death of Kevin Cohen all is not lost. There will be love for this child, what else matters more? His Mother now has a memory to be cherished! Good luck to all involved.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33858Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:17:26 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33858robin ellsbury coffeyville kswhat happened to" you were concieved out of love " or" your mommy and daddy were married at the time of conception?" how sad for the child to be!! you know there is life after death, and when a loved one dies you will join him or her in heaven, but to bring and innocent child into this world out of selfishness, the child will feel the pain, now is grandma going to raise this child? or is the woman carrying the child going to keep the child, does grandmother get grandparent rights? what if grandmother doesnt like how the woman is caring for the child in the future? there are alot of pros and cons with this issue, is this actually how god intended for this to be? Is the knowledge he gave us to use in this manner? i agree with some of the responses above i think it is creepy and grandmother to be is being selfish and needs to seek grief counseling, and learn to deal with her loss, http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33859Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:17:27 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33859JennymaeI think that this went to far. I think that she is the one that wanted a child to replace hers. Her son did look forward to having a child and raising it. It is unfair that he didn't get that opportunity to do so. It is unfair that she didn't get to be a Grandmother and see a loving family. But to interview your perspective Mother of your Grandchild seems weird. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33860Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:17:36 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33860L. Hemphill, Hsv, ALThis is very sad. It is also a scary sign of what is becoming of the world. How sad to tell a child, "Your father is dead and your mother was the best applicant." Now, is that a heritage to be proud of?http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33861Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:17:37 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33861Jimmy Sosa, Corpus Christi, TXIf there is no documentation that her son wanted a child and wanted his sperm frozen in the event of his death, how do we know for sure he wanted his body treated this way when he died? I understand the mother's want to become a grandmother, but how do we know these are his wants and not hers?http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33862Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:17:47 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33862John Paul, kcmoi would find it awesome if the mother then takes the child to never be seen again by the stupid/obsessive grandmother.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33864Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:17:52 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33864Meghan, Fayetteville, ARI agree w/ the majority here--how selfish. She is forcing this child to grow up w/o his father. Good luck explaining that one to the child.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33865Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:18:01 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33865Katie Delavan WIAfter this baby is born, will there be a custody battle? Does this give the grandmother rights over this child, which will cause more time in the courtroom??http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33866Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:18:11 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33866Donna, Cleveland, OhioHow do you explain to a child that he was conceived AFTER his father's death? Is the donor mother going to be involved with child? How will they explain that? This is just going too far. I can't say that I understand the grief that the soon to be grandmother is going through, but wouldn't she think that playing God is not a good thing? This was his dream, not his mother's. His dream was to be a father. He can't be a father if he's deceased!!! What's wrong with this picture!!!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33867Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:18:13 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33867Bonny, Albany NYIt was tragic and premature that she lost her son at so young an age, but the fact is that he died without ever fathering a child. Period. He is now gone, and with him went the chance for a grandchild. If an Israeli court recognizes a parent's right to an adult child's genetic material after death, does that now create the possibility for a future precedent whereby a parent could sue to force an adult child to produce a grandchild while that adult child was still living--but he/she did not want children? Do older parents now have the RIGHT to procure grandchildren? This case is all wrong, and was from the very beginning. I agree that this woman desperately needs a grief counselor to help her deal with the loss of her son and the grandchildren that were lost with him the day he died.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33868Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:18:17 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33868KJ, Holland, MIThis Mom is emotionally unstable and in need of psychological help! This is just plain wrong and sick!!!!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33869Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:18:21 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33869LadyLee, los angeles CAVery scary and very selfish. What is this world comming to? I already feel bad for the kid who isnt even born yet. Lady, you need a shrink!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33871Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:18:33 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33871Sarah NEIf she wants so badly to be a grandmother why not "interview" the thousands of children out there that don't have grandparents. It is very wrong to bring a child into the world by a women whom the father NEVER knew. Then to allow the child to be raised with only memories in the version of the grandmother. How selfish can a person be?? I have two brothers that are currently serving in the military and I have full respect for what Kevin did. I am very proud of him and his service to this wonderful country. I do feel sorry for him now to have his name smeared all over the country. Shame on you Mom.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33872Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:19:21 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33872Troy, CaliforniaAs insane as this story is, I am surprised the mother didn't just impregnate herself with her son's sperm. Afterall, wouldn't that be a lot more meaningful. She is a little twisted.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33873Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:19:27 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33873Cristy, Indianapolis, INWill the military end up taking care of this woman and the child because the father was in the military? What about social security benefits?http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33874Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:19:27 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33874Barb, Olathe, Ks. I work in Child Support and see way too many custody battles and children used as pawns in a relationship. What if this advertised "mom" takes off with this child and is never heard from again? Or what is she finds someone and decides to get married and her spouse adopts this child? Grandma needs help, real help. I feel for this child and the women involved on both ends of this arrangement. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33875Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:19:31 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33875Sue Ann, Delavan, WIIf God had wanted him to be a father his life would have taken a different path. I totally disagree with this process, like the answer above, IT IS WAY TOO CREEPY.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33876Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:19:40 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33876Cyndi Duvall, Oxon Hill, MDI guess I have mixed feelings. I think that this mother is dealing with alot of grief and perhaps would benefit from a grief counselor. However, maybe she feels that she is doing what she believes her son would have wanted. None of us were there when her son stated to her that he one day would like to father a child. Perhaps, their was alot of emotions tied to how he said it making her think that this would be waht he wanted.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33878Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:19:54 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33878SALLY AKRON, OHIOTHIS IS A TOUGH ONE. TO BRING A CHILD INTO THE WORLD ALREADY KNOWING THEY WILL NEVER MEET THEIR FATHER SEEMS UNFAIR TO THE CHILD BUT AT THE SAME TIME HAVING A PART OF YOUR CHILD WITH YOU AGAIN WOULD BE AWESOME. ESPECIALLY BECAUSE OF THE CIRCUMSTANCES OF HIS DEATH. GOOD LUCK TO YOU .http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33881Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:20:00 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33881Tammy, Utica, MIAs I read this article, I thought a little creepy that this mother was so concerned about her son's sperm. Honestly, I think that's the only real problem that people may have. But what if his wishes were to donate an organ? We would be applauded this women. As a widow of a wonderful man who served our country I can tell you, there is NOTHING that I wouldn't have done for him had he wished it in the event of his passing. As a mother, raising a child wihtout this man, yes it has been difficult, but the rewards and everything this child has given me, and the undying, unconditional love that he will always have from me speaks volumes. There are plenty of men and women who don't deserve to be parents or grandparents, yet they are. For these two incredible women, I say GOD BLESS YOU. Our heros are dying everyday. Because of you, one will live on!!!!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33882Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:20:02 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33882Gayle, Cincinnati, OHDid anyone notice that this fine young man was in the Israel Defense Force? I don't think he was an American soldier in Israel. The sperm retrieval is good for his mother, bad for his child. What happens - if a child is born - when Kevin's mother looks in the face of the child and realizes her son isn't there to be the father he wanted to be. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33883Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:20:09 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33883Sarah, Dallas, TexasThis women is desperately in need of therapy. Instead of dealing with her grief, she is trying to replace her son with a grandchild. Her son will still be dead, her potential grandchild will be fatherless. There are so many levels that this is wrong. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33884Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:20:10 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33884Hannah, Bridgton, METhis is very sad...life runs its course and we shouldnt interfere so much. The child will never know its father, its mother conceived without ever knowing its father and who will raise the child? Will this child be taunted as a freak? Im sorry for the woman's loss but many of us go through life and death without always fulfilling all of our dreams...thats called LIFE.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33885Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:20:11 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33885MARY, BARBADOSTHIS IS TOTALLY WRONG, MAY GOD HAVE MERCY ON US ALL.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33886Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:20:23 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33886Gerald - Columbus OhioSounds like the Grandma wants a replacement son, and since she's too old to give birth having a stranger injected with her dead son's sperm must be second best. It's tragic that this man lost his life. However birthing a child through such means and without a father just seems a little out there to me. I think that when this man said he wanted to be a father, he saw himself alive, enjoying time with his son or daughter. I don't think he had this in mind.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33887Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:20:25 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33887Kim W. Fond du Lac,WiI agree with many of the other posts--it's not right to request something like this. Not only will the child grow up with no father, but is the grandmother planning on adopting the baby? If not, what kind of relationship will she have the child, living somewhere else with another family? What about the surrogate mother? Does she realize the strain of raising a child alone? If the grandmother did adopt-what about the age gap there? Is she healthy enough to raise a child until he/she is 18? If she's already quite old, she won't be active or fit enough for the rigor of a little baby/toddler and then, not to be morbid, but there's the chance that she'll pass away when the child or young person is still young, leaving him/her with no "mother" again. No one knows what will happen day to day, but I know I'd worry about not being around to see my child turn 20,30,etc. JMHO....http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33888Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:20:28 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33888GC Indianapolis,IN. I am sorry but if GOD wanted this Boy to have a child he would have been married and he would also be alive. Leave things the way they are designed to be. God's Way.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33889Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:20:29 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33889L, PhiladelphiaIt sounds like the grandchild or carrier will have no rights just as the dead son cannot be laid to rest. Let's make sure that science also helps pick the sex, hair color, etc. Let's make sure that the child looks as much like the father and NOT the mother as possible. Agreed. The mother needs a grief counselor. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33890Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:20:30 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33890Sarah, Brooklyn, NYi don't understand why it's anybody's business to voice such harsh opinions.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33891Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:20:31 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33891Diane, Fort Myers, FLAs a mother and grandmother, I can empathize with this womans desire for a granchild...but..it appears that she is trying to replace her son, not gain a granchild. Who is going to raise this child? The grandmother? The biological mother? This is simply wrong. Where do we draw the line? Can I preserve my daughters eggs against (the unthinkable) tragedy? The courts need to mind criminals and stay out of peoples lives..this woman needs professional help and a lot of grief counseling...not a replacement childhttp://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33892Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:20:36 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33892Taylor Phillips, San Antonio, TXI seriously doubt that a 19 year old boy's dream was to father a child. At 19, most boys are doing everything they can to avoid fathering a child and when they do father one, they run away and deny it. (most boys, not all of course) I think psycho mom wanted him to father a child and now I think she wants to raise it. I am sure that there will be a custody battle. Why would she go through all of this trouble to give her grandson to a woman in another country? This is disgusting and the only person who will pay for this is the baby, especially when he/she finds out how they were conceived. Is she willing to stop at one child, or will she continue to plant her son's seed in woman all over the world? grosshttp://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33893Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:20:39 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33893Terry Hall, Durham, NCShe should of had the sperm implanted in herself. That would have been a freaky twist to an already freaky story. Sperm jacking leads to an onslaught of ethical questions, will it be okay if World Governments Sperm Jack and create a "more desirable" breed of Humans?http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33894Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:20:47 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33894kristen, cincinnati ohare we sick of playing God yet? aren't there enough kids in the world without fathers (or mothers or both) already?http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33895Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:21:06 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33895K, Louisville, KYI agree with some of the comments that this is an unconventional way of getting a grandchild. However, it's similar to those women who are pregnant while their husbands/boyfriends are fighting for our country and die. Those children only have the memories of loved ones to know about their dads. The only differences here are it's been 4 years since the soldier died and it's not his wife that's having the baby. I say good luck to all parties involved and may the child be healthy and happy and know that his father was brave and served his country well.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33896Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:21:06 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33896Lisa"The process of finding a mother for Kevin Cohen’s child took more then two years." "Then" should be "THAN" in this sentence. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33898Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:21:09 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33898Terri, Port St Lucie, FLI am a monther of a soldier and if this were his wish, I certainly would do the same. I do noth think it's playing God... it's following through on your childrens wishes...and for those out there that think bringing someone into to this world with a dead father - what about all of the military wives who are pregnant and have their husbands serving right now? That (either already conceived or not yet conceived)child can grow up knowing his father died for his country!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33899Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:21:11 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33899JF, Alexandria, VaMost people want to have kids so they can experience the joy of parenthood. This is probably what her son wanted. There are the rare few who just want to have kids to pass on their genes but in this case, it just sounded like he wanted to be a father. If all he wanted was to genetically father a child, he could have donated sperm to a sperm bank. His mother is taking this way too far and, I think, acting very selfishly. She is doing this because she wants a link to her son. Sounds like she isn't considering anyone else's wellbeing at all. I want children because I want to raise them and experience the life-altering joy they bring. If I were to die, there'd be no more reason to have children b/c I wouldn't even get to raise them.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33900Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:21:11 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33900V, Boston, MAIt is hard to pass judgement on this issue. For starters, the lady's son was only 19 when he passed on. I am sure he intended to start a family in a more natural way. Seems like she is more bent on filling the void her son's death created. It will be interesting to see if in time to come, assuming that the recipient of the sperm gets pregnant and the child is born, will the grandmother be happy that she 'fulfilled her son's wish' or will she want custody of the child. That will be true proof of her initial motive.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33901Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:21:33 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33901S More, Houston, Texas Weird. So does the grandmother pay child support? I think this is so wrong and creepy. At least she didn't ask for an egg donor and have the baby herself!!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33902Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:21:33 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33902Beth Kerkove Camanche IADisgusting. I hope that if I am every killed that someone doesn't decide to make me a mom after the fact. It isn't natural or moral. Why would anyone want to have kids that they never get to see?http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33903Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:21:40 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33903margi beeyukhttp://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33904Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:21:57 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33904DiTOP, Washington, DCWhat a heavy burden to put on a child...to live up to his/her father's idealized memory. Your son is not coming back no matter how many children his sperm create. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33905Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:22:03 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33905M. Winters, Pueblo, COAren't there enough children in the world growing up without fathers? Now, not only is this child going to be fatherless, it will one day realize the circumstances under which it was conceived. My heart goes out to the man's mother, but the one who is going to pay is the child.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33906Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:22:05 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33906M Heekin Parlin, New Jersey What a sad situation. Regardless of the opinions of others, this baby will be loved and nurtured inspite of his fathers shameful and pointless death. He (or she) will be the legacy that his father should have had the opportunity to fulfill himself. God Bless them and Mazel Tov..http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33907Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:22:08 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33907linda cascone, newington, ctGET THERAPY and let your son rest in peace.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33908Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:22:12 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33908Kelly Smith Chicago, ILThat poor child--he or she is going to be very messed up! A child is a gift from God, not a right!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33910Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:22:25 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33910Bree Jeran, Dallas, TXI think this is very wrong.. As I read it, an Israeli woman has been selected, correct ??? Why????? Doesn't she know the Israely culture, don't think so. Then she will have 2 pictures she can look at, her sons and her grandchilds or is she raising the grandchild???? Sorry Lady, but I think this is pretty selfish and it should be against the law, because I don't think she is thinking about that childs future. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33911Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:22:30 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33911Jean Squires, St. Louis, MissouriI know the woman misses her son but he is gone and she needs to accept that. Getting sperm from a dead man is just wrong. There are enough children growing up without fathers. How does she think her grandchild is going to react when she tells them they were created from a dead man's sperm? If it were me I would be creeped out and sad. My father died when I was 13 and as I teenager I suffered from a lack of guidance and experience only a father could provide. My brother was 3 and has no memories of him. He feels cheated. The rest of us talk about him and things we did together and he is left out. He doesn't feel anything for his father except the sadness of never knowing him.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33913Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:22:41 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33913Martin, Llano, TXThat's sooo frickin' weird. Plus the kid is never gonna know who his real biological father was, as all children should know.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33915Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:22:54 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33915Amanda, Lancaster, PAYOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING. IS SHE THAT DESPERATE TO HAVE A GRANDCHILD OR CAN'T ADMIT THAT, UNFORTUNATELY, HER SON IS DEAD?http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33916Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:23:10 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33916Cliff, Omaha, NEQuestion? Why would anyone knowingly want to bring a child into the world without a Father (Parent?). Answer- SELFISHhttp://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33917Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:23:17 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33917Amanda, Jonesboro, ARThis is an unusual story. I personally feel that if she chooses to do this then she needs to realize she will be raising this child. She needs to think of it from the future childs perspective, also. I also feel that we have no right to judge her. It is not our place to do so. I do wish her the best, though.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33918Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:23:18 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33918Sharry JH, WYNo one has a right to pass judgement. There will never be a child born that will be more loved. If it's meant to be, the Lord will find a way for this little spirit to come into the lives of those who need him/her. Who are we to judge the method that is chosen? http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33919Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:23:22 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33919Joe, Walkersville, WVWhy doesn't the woman go totally off her rocker; take her son's genetic profile, have him cloned, and then he can go pick his own partner for children. The whole situation sounds pretty whacked.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33920Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:23:24 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33920P. Tuttle, Fort Wayne, INThis sounds like a selfish mother wanting to be a grandmother, I'm sorry for her son's death but did he really tell her it was his dream to have a child?? And he appeared to her in a dream wanting to know where his child was?? Strange and sick-who does she think she is "ghost whisper"? A parent should not have the right to freeze her son's sperm, sick sick sick and an Israeli woman is going to carry this child, who will raise it? The grandmother in the states or the "mother" in another country? Stop trying to play Godhttp://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33921Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:23:27 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33921Lee Telluride,CoOh my, there is no way to discribe how disturbing this is. 1)The kid died at 19, 2) they INTERVIEWED moms?! 3) the mom ended up being a 35 year old that the son possibly would never have pursued. That mother was being selfish. Plain and simple. If that kid wanted to be a father, he might have reconsidered his lifestyle.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33922Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:23:33 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33922Jessica, Pensacola, FLThis is the creepiest thing anyone can do. I think this woman is in need of the major counseling. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33923Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:23:38 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33923amazed, long island, nyWhat? She got a surrogate instead of giving birth to her grandchild? Imagine explaining that to the poor kid.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33924Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:23:41 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33924CMI am in total discuss reading this!!!! I could better understand it if it was his wife but for the mom...gross! Playing god is dangerous and what are they going to tell this poor child and how will it affect him/her as they grow up. Did grandma ever think about that? May your son rest in peace and I am truly sorry for your lost but you need to see a shrink!!!!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33925Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:23:58 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33925Ingrid Johnson, Boulder, ColoradoProfoundly sad..tragic, almost. Who will support this child? This woman desperately needed grief counselling. Instead, a child will be brought into the world to ease her pain. Very weird, selfish, and twisted. But not all that unusual, unfortunately.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33926Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:23:58 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33926Stephon Hollywood FloridaOk clearly this women is insane. The son appeared to her in a dream?! And she listened?! There is a thin line between sadness and insanity.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33927Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:23:59 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33927DonnaWhile I understand that losing a child is the worst thing anyone could go through I don't think this is the best way to deal with that grief. It isn't fair to the child to grow up without a father and it will be a hard thing to explain to a child.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33928Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:24:05 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33928Katrina Muller Port Jervis NYGod makes miricles happen as he did in your case. May he also give you the blessing of a little boy to carry out your sons name. Reguardless everything happens for a reason. Maybe this is your gift from your son in letting you know he does live on. May God bless you and the little one.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33929Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:24:12 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33929margi bee chicago,illnoisYukhttp://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33930Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:24:44 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33930Ken Bellamy,Tulsa,OKThis is a tough one. I understand both sides of this discussion. Being a proud grandfather I can not imagine not having grandkids. For those of you who do not, you have no idea the love you will have for them. Something very different and special in a different kind of way than your what you have and feel for your kids. Grandkids bring such joy and hopefully this will turn out to be a healthy and special relationship for all involved. I just hope for the best for all of them. That said, both of my children are girls, so I don't know if I could do what they are doing.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33931Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:24:52 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33931Valerie GrammerThere are some dreams that should come true...but what might be a dream for one could end up being a nightmare for many others. Sympathy, not sperm, should have been given to this mother. This ruling sets a precedent that sounds like Robin Cook wrote, not a judge. How unfortunate that this child will grow up knowing he is a living monument to his dad, and everything he does will be cast in that light.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33932Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:24:59 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33932LYNN D CLARKA GRANDMOTHER AFTER THE FACT??? WHERE WILL TEH MOTHER OF THE DEAD SON LIVE? WHAT IF THIS WOMAN HAS OTHER CHILDREN? HOW DO EXPLAIN ALL OF THIS?http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33933Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:25:00 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33933Rebekah, Charlotte, NCSeeing how difficult it is for my daughter to not have a father, who walked out when she was 3 months old, I am just stunned that someone would be so selfish that they would intentionally bring a child into the world without a father. Regardless of the moral implications, this IS a place where the courts should be involved; next they will have to decide whether or not a child conceived after the death of a parent is entitled to the Social Security survivor benefit or government aid usually reserved for children that lose one or both parents before reaching the age of 18. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33934Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:25:01 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33934Jim PetersViolent conflicts leave many spouses without their partners and children without parents, if this child is born, it will only perpetuate the grieving for the family, and add another child to society's anxiety over this conflict.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33935Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:25:01 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33935M Heekin Parlin, New Jersey What a sad situation. Regardless of the opinions of others, this baby will be loved and nurtured inspite of his fathers shameful and pointless death. He (or she) will be the legacy that his father should have had the opportunity to fulfill himself. God Bless them and Mazel Tov..http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33936Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:25:13 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33936Brenda CountsO.K. so now we have a child with no LIVIGN father. My husband and I work with children whose fathers have been and still are incarcerated. In other words CHILDREN WITH NO FATHER. Want some statistics on how this works out? Stop playing Godhttp://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33937Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:25:17 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33937ChristinaWhat a selfish person. the man and woman who RAISE this child will be the parents....not the biological donor. There is a world full of biological donors-doesnt make them parents!!!!!!!!!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33938Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:25:21 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33938Nicole, Bridgeater, MAI understand that some people are not comfortable with this idea, but in all reality, it's not all that different from a single woman chosing to use sperm from an anonymous donor at a clinic. In that case, the child will never know his father either. The big difference here is involvement of the paternal family. Use anonymous sperm, there's no second set of grandparents to love that child. The woman who was chosen wants to have a child and she now has the added bonus of a paternal granmother to care for the child and teach the child about his father. And as the single mother of "boy raised without a father", I can tell you, Alice, that not all boys raised by their mothers have "issues". My son is smart, polite and happy. But thanks for your concern.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33939Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:25:42 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33939Diana, Scottsdale ,AZSounds like someone wants to be a grandmother much more than someone wanted to be a father, or perhaps he would have "banked" his own sperm. Bye the way, unless he was in the habit of discussing his sex life with his mother, I would hope this young man was looking forward to fatherhood and raising a child not just siring one. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33941Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:26:07 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33941vicki,Barstow, CAJust goes to show you that maybe we should have our true wishes expressed in writing somewhere no matter how old we are. I can see how this would make a mother happy, but for all the sons out there that think this is not right maybe it will make them realize that anything can happen and that they need to have their rights protected even when they are gone . Whats next, are moms going to harvest eggs from their daughters?http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33942Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:26:11 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33942P. Tuttle, Fort Wayne, INThis sounds like a selfish mother wanting to be a grandmother, I'm sorry for her son's death but did he really tell her it was his dream to have a child?? And he appeared to her in a dream wanting to know where his child was?? Strange and sick-who does she think she is "ghost whisper"? A parent should not have the right to freeze her son's sperm, sick sick sick and an Israeli woman is going to carry this child, who will raise it? The grandmother in the states or the "mother" in another country? Stop trying to play Godhttp://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33943Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:26:18 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33943Cheryl, Manitoba, CanadaVery different, indeed. The world is changing....won't need to clone...Anyhow, I raised my kids as a single mom, and then got into a relationship. What a huge difference when there are two parents. Good luck to this family, although I do not agree with it at all..http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33945Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:26:23 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33945Deb, Greenville Ill.I can identify with the grandmother. I have lost my oldest son in an accident. It is by far the most difficult thing I have ever had to endure. However, children have enough issues to deal with in this often complicated world. It is not fair to play God for selfish reasons. What is the mother decides that she wants her privacy and further determines that the grandmother should not be a part of the child's life? Court battles, media, and grief will abound. My heart goes out to the grandmother, but I don't agree with her self-serving decision. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33946Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:26:33 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33946M Grimmett, Murray, KyA woman who deeply grieves a son, is in no way, obligated to decide for "him" if he should have a son. That is saying, okay, I have a mentally retarded son, that will probably never marry, so without his mental consent, I will extract sperm from him so that i can have my grandchild. Oh yeah, and how is the child supposed to explain in school when he is 6 yrs old and the other kids ask how long his daddy has been in heaven and he says 10 years. Kind of creepy to know your father was dead Four years before you were born, and that you were almost some type of science experiment. Honestly the woman needs medical help, because she shows niether mental stability nor any sufficient Coping mechanisms for her lost son. Selfish is really big word in this category guys, showing what lengths people are willing to go to for what "they want". Her son wanted a son when he was alive sure, the she had ONE nightmare and flipped her lid, and that is about all the case is. The child should pull through okay, but i think we need to worry about the woman, because she is honestly. To me it sounds like she does not have a husband either? correct? And instead of wnting to meet ppl she decides to make it her family that way they will have to love her back. It's a strange world out there, and it makes you wonder how much God is actually going to let humanity play his roles before he does something about it. I mean come on, you can only go so far, and this is quite ridiculous in all angles. She needs medication and counseling and that is about all their is to it!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33947Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:26:42 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33947Jackie, Clearwater, FlI totally understand how the mother of the dead son feels. When I lost my cat, Snoodle, I had his sperm extracted so that I could carry his children myself one day. I just know that sooner or later, cats and people will begin to mate and this world will be meowfully beautiful. I am obviously full of bologna--- let's hope this article was as well. Does she really think her dead son cares? All he really wants is for his mother to get past her loss. For crying out loud- if it was part of God's plan to give her son a child- God wouldn't have taken him before it happened. Hey kid- you were taken from your father's dead testicle. We love you!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33948Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:26:42 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33948Katie Crocker, Albany, GAI say yay for her. My dad raised my by himself, so i nevr knew my mother and i turned out just fine. The chid will have a loving mother and grandmother. And maybe even a step-father. So the child will be fine.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33949Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:26:51 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33949Lisa, TexasThis goes for beyond selfish.. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33951Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:27:30 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33951C. Powell, Las Vegas, NVThis is just crazy. This man's dream was to "father a child". When he said that, I'm sure what he meant was that he actually wnated to father a child, meaning being there to raise him/her and experience the joy of being a parent. He is not fathering a child just because his sperm was used to create one. You can't father a child if you are no longer alive. Hello? http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33952Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:27:45 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33952Solly, TexasHow can y'all be so uncompassionate? The mother was not doin' this for her, but for her son. From what I read, she had a dream and her son was askin' about his child. She was reluctant to do it at first also, but after that dream, as you can see, she went all-out with it. If you were in that same situation and you had a dream like that, would you do the same thing?http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33953Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:27:46 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33953Tremaine Jackson, Brooklyn, NYWith all the children out there waiting to be adopted, this seems morally off-center.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33954Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:28:05 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33954Linda Goins, Ashland, ORThis is an unusual request, however, if anyone has had a child go to war, let alone die in one, you might be more understanding. Only they(we) know the pain, and what may help the grief. If you loose your only child, why not? There are many many fatherless children in our country who are accidents. This child is wanted!!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33955Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:28:14 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33955Laura, Kansas City, MOSomone has lost thier mind!! I find this wierd for sure, she has a right to a grandchild but that kid is going to be traumatized forever because of this ordeal. Feel sorry for the kid that comes from this. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33956Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:28:19 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33956Kerri Phoenix AZThis is so wrong, no wonder why the woman doesn't want to be identified !http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33957Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:28:20 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33957Maggie, MNJacini, Pensacola, FL--raising a kid with no father is one thing, but raising a kid with a father who never agreed to have the kid (even through concentual sex) violates the rights of the dead man. Yes, many women raise kids single-handedly--when they CHOOSE to get pregnant or CHOOSE to keep a child--at least with sperm donors, the men agreed for there sperm to be used that way. This is hearsay: the grandma SAYS her son wanted children, we have no proof he really did or that he would want them if he couldn't BE A FATHER too them. WHY NOT JUST ADOPT? http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33958Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:28:56 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33958Michelle, SeattleI am sorry for this mother that her son died tragically, but please, let's be realistic. There is a point where someone needs to just accept reality and move on. What's more, why add to the world population when there are plenty of children to adopt in the world that need a loving family? And, how is it going to affect the child when it finds out the truth?? Sometimes we need to think outside of the box and see the bigger picture and its potential implications.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33961Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:29:05 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33961J. Kocinski"hey mom, I never had the chance to know my dad. What was he like?" "i dont know son, he died before I met him." I understand the wanting to carry out a deceased loved one's wishes. I get that. But there's a commonsensical line there that this mother ignores. (selfish) I dream of one day having a yacht. I wouldn't expect my mom to start a foundation in my name to buy a yacht. Or.. (unselfish) I dream of one day curing cancer. I wouldn't expect it but would appreciate a continued effort by my family to contribute to the cause/ (creepy-selfish) I dream of one day having a family. Being single when I, hypothetically, die, I wouldn't expect nor want my mother to go to great lengths to extract my sperm from my dead body and join it with a random mother of my child. What type of women want to mother the child of a dead father? http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33962Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:29:20 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33962Laura McGee, Abilene TexasI think people are forgetting something very important. It takes more than sperm to be a father. Sergeant Kevin Cohen will not get the chance to be a father, because he is dead. His mother gets to see a child that may or may not have his likeness. But her son is gone. Is she going to raise this child? Or do we just get one more child out there with a broken home?http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33963Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:29:26 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33963JAMES, LAKE ELSINORE, CATO ONLY PLAY GOD....http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33965Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:29:33 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33965Judith Hall ,Clayton, Ca.He died at 19 --- most 19 year olds are in school, and not deciding to go get killed, that was his choice. His mother needs help moving forward from a death of 4 years ago. Seek out counselling. Her son is gone, not in a picture and not in a cemetary. This is unethical. Think of the future child in question -- not the selfish wishful thinking of a mother who has no life. Move on. You can't play God.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33966Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:29:35 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33966Dave Johnson, Minneapolis, MNI smell a custody lawsuit. A mother in Israel and a grandmother in the states.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33967Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:29:39 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33967Chuck D, Philadelphia, PANo one has a "right" to a child. If we are to maintain any level of morality, we need to stop treating human life like a commodity to be manufactured at will. Further, a child has a right to a two parent family. Though persons may become single parents through fate, to willfully choose single parenthood is unfair to the child.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33968Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:29:40 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33968Tammi, Atl GAI think this is awesome. I believe that after we are no longer of this earth, we still have "connections" to the people that we know and love here. The young lady that has the honor of birthing this child should feel proud. I wish both of these women the best of health so that they can see the miracle God is giving, even after death. If it werent meant to be, God wouldnt allow it. Bless you all. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33969Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:29:57 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33969LW, Duluth, MNYuck. This is wrong. I feel for the mother for losing her son, but this is just wrong. And, yes, you definitely need an editor. "The process of finding a mother for Kevin Cohen’s child took more then two years." It should be THAN. It took more THAN two years.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33970Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:30:11 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33970Lyndsi Cavanagh, Silver Spring MDThis entire article fascinates me. It seems to me that this child, more than anything, is being born as a comfort to his/her grieving grandmoher. Now, we all look for a purpose in life, but I'm not sure that the best reason for being born is because your grandmother is trying to keep some portion of her son alive, through you. I understand the wife angle. Having your husband die in the line of duty is tragic at best, and having his child would keep part of him with you. But for the mother of the soldier to crave the same... I do not disagree with the ruling. I just wonder how this will effect the child once he/she is old enough to understand the circumstances surrounding their birth. If this was truly Kevin Cohen's wish, to father a child, than by all means. But make it about him, not his mother. This should not be about a grieving mother, but a soldier who died for his country and his last wish for a child. A lot of this has to do with the way the article was written. I mean no offense, but my 12th grade AP English teacher would have a field day with this. The focus should have been on Kevin Cohen and his wishes, not his mother. It only confused things for the readers. His mother refuses to let go, a fact readily apparent in the article. Which begs the question: Was this really about him, or about her?http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33971Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:30:11 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33971Glen DunnWho will be the surrogate? The child will have no parents, only a grandmother. This is true of many urban minority children. What if the mother volunteered to be the surrogate for her dead son's sperm? Would this issue be viewed differently? Technically, if it was her egg, she would be the mother and grandmother. I cannot judge, but it seems unfair to the child, who is being dealt an extraordinarily odd, if not losing hand in this process. I could forsee much therapy and emotional hang-ups for this child, which would be a shame.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33972Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:30:15 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33972Anna GulehyDr. Mengele would be extatic. His dream come true. New Fuehrers and uber-race will rule the world. Not blue eyes and blond hair breed but rulers anyway.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33973Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:30:16 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33973j roberts mt vernon ilWhat is wrong with this? In our world now all I hear is: After the baby is born then we will decide to get married. A lot of the kids now days have Fathers out there and still don't know them. Aren't in a sense their Fathers are dead also.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33974Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:30:16 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33974Karen, Clinton, MarylandI didn't think a child could replace a child! Isn't that what she is trying to do...replace her son with a grandson?!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33976Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:30:29 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33976Jen Seattle, WAWhy is this so strange to many of you? The woman having his child would have gone to the sperm bank and her child would never know anything about his/her father. At least this way the child will be able to know his/her father through the grandparents. I think this is a wonderful idea...there are many women that would like to have children, but don't have a partner/husband, something like this allows them to have a child and have the background information of the childs father. As well as parenting help from the fathers parents.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33977Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:30:44 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33977DelwareI am the mother of 6 sons. One of my sons is also in the military. I think this is the most bizarre thing I have read. My dreams are for my son's to fall in love, marry and maybe one day experience the joy's of parenthood. Of course they may not chose to have childen. I most certainly would not want any of my son's sperm harvested for a grandchild later. Part of the joy of being a grandparent is seeing your own child experience the joy of parenthood and having a family. If there was a wife left behind I can see this being done. Because that would be a decision made between husband and wife. But, I think it is just selfish for a Mother to bring a grandchild into this world without a father just because she wants to experience being a grandmother. Is she also going to provide for this child? Who will pay the tuition for this child when it goes to college? If his father had an insurance policy will it now go to his child? Seems like alot of unanswered questions down the road...http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33978Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:30:47 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33978Christy Bratten, Nashville, TNThis is absolutely deplorable. The entire system is to blame: the mother of the dead son, who, instead of dealing with her grief, has thrown herself into an unethical and immoral fight so that she can have a reproduction of her dead son to cling to; the surrogate mother, who instead of adopting a child who badly needs a home narcissistically decides to have a biological child, no doubt so she can have some part of herself to pass on, and gets impregnanted by a dead stranger's sperm; "New Family," which chooses to champion the biological rights of a dead man and his grieving, mentally unstable, mother rather than devote those resources to families who desperately need help; and finally the court, for ignoring the legal and moral implications and granting this "right" to save the seed of a man whose dream was to be a father. He's not a father, he's dead, and will never know his son. How does that fulfill his dream? http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33980Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:31:03 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33980Craig, Prov, RIWell, I think I may be confused somewhat. This is all taking place in Israel, right? Somehow America got brought up in the comments and it clouded the story for me. Aside from that, this woman is not sick for wanting a grandson, but in need of counseling. I feel bad for the situation she is in and has now placed herself in, by making a precident of the issue. I also feel sorry,however, for those who are judging her in these comments. To lambast her needs is wrong, and to draw comparisons to Hitler and Frankenstein seems short sighted and off the cuff. Please think through the comments you make. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33981Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:31:13 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33981Sacheen, Raleigh, NCWhat the hell? This is insane and immoral. Let him rest in peace. The mother needs a psychiatrist and a grief counselor. There are some things that don't need to be tapped into. What do you tell the child when he or she grows up. Was this God's intention for us when He handed out common sense? http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33983Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:31:17 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33983Ryan Moe , key west , flHe is a soilder of honor , and payed the ultimate sacrafice for his country ; respect his wishes ! He is the last of his line , and if this the only way to carry on his legacy , so be it , and drop the politics ! http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33984Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:31:21 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33984Nicholas1974, Long Beach, CAThis is abolutely sick. The boy may well grow up with a father in his life. But that poor man will be constantly reminded by this sick grandmother that he isn't the child's "real" father. This is sad for the child, and the man who helps raise him.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33985Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:31:26 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33985Beth, houston, TXThis is sick. That kid is going to have so many mental issues because of this. That lady should be put into jail, she'll be lucky if her grandchild doesnt turn out to be a serial killer because of her. Human's shouldnt play God. Period. Leave conception and birth to the one who created it.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33986Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:31:42 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33986Patsy Boise, IDWRONG - WRONG - WRONG This woman needs help with her grief. I can not believe that this is truly what her son wanted. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33988Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:31:50 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33988LindaI grew up without a Dad. No child should be brought into this world intentionally without a father. The world is hard enough with a good Mother and Dad. My son is 24 and I made sure his Dad would be there and be a good Dad before we planned him. He is our only child. If we do not have grandchildren then we will find a child that needs grandparents and become adoptive grandparents. My son has said he wants children but he would be horrified if we did something like this. By the way I get my dogs and cats spayed. I don't think anything should come into this world just because.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33989Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:31:54 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33989Karen, Clinton, MarylandI didn't think a child could replace a child! Isn't that what she is trying to do...replace her son with a grandson?!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33991Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:32:26 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33991Kay Andersan Mobile ,AlI FEEL THAT THIS IS STRANGE BUT THERE ARE STRANGER THINGS GOING ON BUT IT IS GREAT HER SON WILL HAVE CHILD TO CARRY ON HIS LEGACY FOR WHAT HE DONE FOR HIS COUNTRY AND SHE WILL ALWAYS HAVE HER MEMORIES TO SHARE WITH THAT CHILD SO CONGRATS GRANDMA http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33992Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:32:40 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33992PG, blogdenovo.orgThe problem here is not the lack of a living father; it's the motivation of the wannabe grandmother. The Israeli court probably is correct if we regard bodies as property -- so that the son's body after his death belongs to his heir, which if he died without spouse or child is his mother -- if I own something, I have the right to extract what I want from it within the law. Obviously if there is a law against sperm extraction, she would not have been able to do it. But if we regard bodies as something other than property, this is far more legally problematic. I certainly would not want my parents to use my gametes to make themselves a grandchild after my death, no matter how much they wished they could be grandparents. Are people now going to have to write wills specifically prohibiting their heirs from extracting sperm and eggs from their bodies? Surely the assumption should be on the other side; as with the commenter above whose partner went to the trouble of legally giving her his frozen sperm, people who want to be certain that they can reproduce, even after death, should have the burden of making legal documents to that effect. The rest of us should be able to live without the fear that our eggs and sperm would be taken after death.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33993Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:32:47 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33993Janet, Queen Creek AZMy husband passed away suddenly and if knowing that then I would of tried doing the same thing. If his wife wanted this done that would of been one thing. The mother is really having a hard time dealing with his death. Its too bad no one close to her could of helped her out emotionally or guiding her to a grief counselor. What happens if this woman should marry and refuse the grandmother any rights to see the child? Will she do this again?http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33995Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:33:11 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33995Leesa Johnson, Grand Junction, COWhen Kevin said he had a dream of one day "fathering a child" perhaps he meant that he wanted to be more than just a sperm donor. Fathering a child to me means that a man will be there to raise and support his children. It appears to me that she is taking what he said out of context in order to fulfill her own dream of having her son come back to life through a grandchild.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33997Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:33:17 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33997KAY MOBLEY, FAIRBURN, GEORGIA THIS IS NOT NATURAL BUT UNNATURAL. THIS CHILD,SHOULD THIS HAPPEN WILL BE WITHOUT A FATHER. HOW SELFISH TO WANT TO TAKE BODILY FLUIDS OF A DEAD MAN TO BRING A CHILD INTO THIS WORLD THAT IS BY THE WAY,A REAL MESS. WHAT WILL HAPPEN TO THIS CHILD IF THE GRANDMOTHER DIES AND THE MOTHER DOES NOT WANT TO KEEP THE CHILD???? THIS IS WRONG!!!!!!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33998Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:33:34 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33998Carol, Andover, MAThis is quite wrong. And it seems very bizarre. It's a shame but the son is dead. The mother, should seek psychiatric help for this one. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#33999Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:33:38 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:33999Bud TortWho cares !!! This isnt news. Time to flip my mattress.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#34000Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:33:39 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:34000D. Collins, Melville, New YorkThis is wrong on so many levels. Just because we have the technology to do something doesnt meant that it should be done.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#34001Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:33:44 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:34001Linda, Waldron, ArkansasI grew up without a Dad. No child should be brought into this world intentionally without a father. The world is hard enough with a good Mother and Dad. My son is 24 and I made sure his Dad would be there and be a good Dad before we planned him. He is our only child. If we do not have grandchildren then we will find a child that needs grandparents and become adoptive grandparents. My son has said he wants children but he would be horrified if we did something like this. By the way I get my dogs and cats spayed. I don't think anything should come into this world just because.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#34003Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:34:00 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:34003Charlie, New York, New YorkWho is to say that this child's 'birth story' is any more strange than any other child conceived with an anonymous sperm donor? You don't know if the donor is dead, alive or had a sex change! You just don't know. Also, who is to say this child will grow up without a father? Perhaps the mother will marry one day. Perhaps she has male family members who will step in. One thing this child will have going for it that many children don't - this child is very very WANTED by everyone involved. Whether or not the son wanted this is moot. The Israeli courts have allowed it. Now just wish everyone involved the best. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#34004Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:34:02 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:34004JMS MIWe do not know the whole story. Just pits and pieces, and everyone is so quick to condem. How many of you, if put in the same cituation, would not want to carry out our childs wishes? And as for the comments about the child father being dead, why bring it into the world, I dare you to say thet to any of the women who bore their husbands child after 9/11-How crase can you be.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#34006Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:34:11 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:34006K. Wingert, Regina, Sask.This is the stupidest thing I have ever heard. She should have had no right to keep her sons sperm in the first place. That alone goes to show how screwed up the world is. I am sure he would be far more upset to have a child he did not actually conceeive and grow without a father than anything else. People need to start thinking rationally again.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#34007Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:34:31 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:34007Christine, Vancouver Island, British ColumbiaAlthough I sympathize with this mother's desire for a grandchild linking her to her son I must comment as the mother of a son who was born 2 1/2 months after his father was killed. My son has spent his whole life with an emptiness that will never be filled - no matter how much love I have for him or his very large extended family has for him - he has a void in his heart that will always be just that - a void. It would be the same, I believe, for any baby born after his father has passed on. My son's brother was 16 1/2 months old when his father was killed - he also has this void - he has a small broken heart tatooed over his heart as he says that is how he has always felt - that his heart has been broken. My older son, however, sees pictures of himself being held by his dad, loved by his dad -and his grief is so different from his younger brothers -easier, somehow, to come to terms with his loss. I would ask this hopeful grandmother to think long and hard about the possibility of her grandchild spending his/her whole life feeling like there is a huge part of their life missing, never to be filled.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#34008Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:34:37 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:34008Mike, Cleveland, OhioOnly thing that can be said is -- BAD IDEAhttp://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#34009Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:34:54 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:34009Laurie, Philadelphia, PAHorrible. As someone who grew up without a Dad I think this is a horrible thing to do to a child! Totally and completely selfish on the Grandmother's part!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#34180Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:54:07 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:34180Nettie, St. Louis, MO"If it was wrong God wouldn't allow it." Like he allows cancer, plague, and widespread famine that starve thousands upon thousands of tiny little innocent children every day? Perhaps you should take a walk through the childrens ward of a cancer hospital and ask what is right about that, with all due respect. In the meantime, I believe HE waits to see what WE will allow.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#34181Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:54:15 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:34181Jennifer M, Dallas TexasSo if a child is born, will said child automatically me entitled to social security benifits as are those children who lose a parent? And if so, where does it end? After the death of a parent many spend what seems an eternity trying to obtain those benefits, will this child's be set up at the time of conception?! As well will the childs mother be seeking VA benefits for herself since the father was in the military? I'm not sure how all that works but in my own opinion neither should be allowed. Countless persons fight daily for those benefits, none plan for that fight. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#34182Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:55:02 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:34182Kristin, Hull, MAWas this really a soldiers dream come true, or a mother replacing her dead son? Be proud that your son served his country and died doing just that. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#34183Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:55:15 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:34183Vanessa Orchard, Petaluma, CaliforniaI think she's trying to fulfill her son's wish, creepy and taboo as it is. Children grow up without fathers all the time; some of us grow up with them and later realize that we actually don't have one. It's based on the integrity of the child itself and the values instilled in it how he or she will choose to deal with that. Try to look at it from other angles: if Kevin had frozen his sperm before his fateful trip to the Middle East, would it still be about this child and what its life would be like? Would it be less creepy if his mother was not so intent on actually harvesting the sperm? I do agree that her decision is rash and questionable. I also agree that this grieving mother needs counseling; counseling not riddled with someone's opinion. This is a controversial subject. How is she supposed to get advice from an unbiased individual? I feel sorry for the mother selected to bear the child of this ghost of a man. Her mother-in-law woes are sure going to have mine beat.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#34184Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:55:34 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:34184md, ny, nyThe article is missing too many details. Who was opposing her application with the israeli courts? What were the respective sides arguments before the courts? What were the were the various court rulings and their holdings and reasonings? How does this affect future court actions in Israel by the woman for child support? http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#34187Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:55:54 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:34187Mitzi Youngman, Oglala, South DakotaI think that God should be the one giving this lady a grandchild. I also don't know what it's like to lose a child-nor do I want to. I can only imagine her pain. If they can give her a chance to keep a part of her son with her, and watch the child grow, than more power to her and her grandbaby.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#34188Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:56:00 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:34188Jamee Williams, Baton Rouge, LAI sympathize with Mrs. Cohen, however will this chosen mother be raising the child? is she even fit to parent?, what if conflict arises between the chosen mother and grandmother re: this child. Is this whole ordeal going to help Ms. Cohen deal with future grief processing? I am happy for her but I hope they approach the possible birth of this child and rearing with caution. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#34189Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:56:02 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:34189Mayra Colmenero, Valencia, Ca.I really think this is wrong, you can't expect to bring a child into a world just because that's what you're son would of wanted. You make a child with love,( with some you are in love with ). You tell me, I believe this is just selfish!!!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#34191Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:56:14 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:34191Joe, Salt Lake City, UtahI don't get it, what kind of 35 year old lady in her right mind has nothing better to do then one day decide to take the sperm from a 19 yr old dead guy and have a baby just to help a grieving mother out?http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#34192Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:56:18 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:34192Misty JanssenI was so relieved to read that so many of you think this is a terrible idea. What is this crazy women thinking? To bring a baby into this world for no other reason than to selfishly grant your own desires is reprehensible. Disgusting might be a better term. Is the new mother married. Will her current/future husband be the dad too? This women has clearly not thought this through. She should have donated his sperm to a sperm bank and then let families who can't have children get a chance. She should remove herself from the equation, grieve for her lost son, a move on. She should understand that she will eventually die, probably sooner rather than later, and will leave a lonely grandchild... or maybe she is hoping for a cloning miracle.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#34193Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:56:27 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:34193kathy georgetown , gcGary A. Markette : Maybe you should try investing into getting a pair of reading glasses before making the comments you do. because "and finally one was chosen. is correct where do u see finely !!!!!!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#34195Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:56:29 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:34195George Ketter, Burlington, ON, CanadaI believe the situation has been badly over-analysed! The fact that this woman is following her son's desires is remarkable. How many of us would have persued it? There are several issues that need to be visited before judgement is passed! Had this young man been married and his wife fertilized prior to his death this discussion would have no meaning! It has happened several times since the start of the Iraq war. Had this young man a 'Living Will' in which he stated this request, would we be casting stones at her? Additionally, the court situation upheaval would not have arisen! As for the surrogate mother, she has been given an opportunity to give a fallen father his greatest gift. Who knows ... maybe he is watching and controlling the happenings??? There is certainly pros and cons to this story but I trust we all hope this story results in a healthy, happy, and very fortunate child! Maybe the child will appreciate what his grandmother has done ... but that's another issue! Best wishes and love from Canada! GK Burlington, ONhttp://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#34196Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:56:31 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:34196tmederos tampa floridaIsn't this like playing God. Maybe her son was not supposed to have a child. This child might be a spawn of satan. This is just not right. Where does it stop. Hell why doesnt she just get the sperm and have her son cloned. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#34197Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:56:45 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:34197Cambiado, Copiague, NYThis was a very interesting article. I agree with alot of the comments that were posted about there being enough fatherless children in the world...and that puts an unnecessary burden on the mother of the child because she will have to explain to the child why he or she doesn't have a father...and how that child came to be. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#34198Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:56:51 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:34198Tom, TexasUm...so who supports this child? The Grandma, the state, the federal government? Since his father is deceased does the child qualify for Social Security benefits? Too many questions, not enough answers - so to the point that the government shouldnt be involved - agreed, so don't sign up the child up for medicare either...http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#34199Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:57:00 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:34199jon smithhow wonderful that they've created an orphan (like me) who will never know his/her father and spend the rest of his/her life wondering who they really are.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#34200Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:57:10 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:34200Shelly Logan, Georgetown, TXWhat she is doing is wrong and totally selfish. I believe her son wanted to be a father, but he is gone now and he will never be a father to this child. This child will grow up never feeling his or her daddy's love and warm embrace.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#34202Thu, 18 Jan 2007 16:57:13 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:34202Alissa, Chanhassen MNHow does she know that the child will even be a part of her life. What if the "mother" bearing the child doesn't let her the child see his/her grandmother. This is selfish. If I were born out of hardship, I'd be embarrassed at the length my grandmother went to just to have a grandbaby with no parents. She needs some major counseling!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35081Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:15:14 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35081Susie, Bremerton, WAMay God bless all parties involved. My sister was pregnant with her 2nd child when her husband was killed in Iraq in her 2nd trimester. I along with her mother in law, our mom and his sister were in the delivery room with her, along with pictures of her husband. We have videos of him reading to his daughter and talking to her-this was something that he did before every deployment for her big brother too. You would not believe how many people thought that my sister should terminate or even that it would be "almost a blessing" if she miscarried. Like I said in the beginning, God bless and peace to all involved.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35083Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:15:21 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35083Lisa Labaska, Delta Junction, AlaskaAs much as my heart aches for this woman.....I have a son myself and I can only imagine how my heart would break if anything happened to him....but I feel like she's still grieving for her dead son and she's not thinking straight. There is something that just doesn't "ring right" with this whole thing.....it's almost as if she's trying to "clone" her dead son.......I wouldn't do it. I couldn't. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35084Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:15:24 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35084Rylee, St. Louis, MO Okay, totally weird and creepy!! How do people come up with these things?http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35085Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:15:24 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35085Jessica C., MichiganThis is disgusting and selfish.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35086Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:15:31 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35086Brenda HI think this is just wrong. How will something like this be explained to the child. How will other children treat him/her down the road. What will the child say when asked at school about his dad. I think Mrs. Cohan need to think alittle ahead in this child life. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35087Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:15:31 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35087Pat W, Bensalem, PAThe reality is her son will never be a dad. A dad is not a sperm, it is a living person who is there to love and raise the child. And that child will be another fatherless son or daughter trying to figure out why this happened.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35088Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:15:34 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35088Mary, Olney, MarylandI find this entire story creepy and disturbing and think the mom needs therapy. Are we just supposed to take her word for it about her poor son's wishes? What if I said I would like to be a millionaire one day? Would someone then rob a bank for me? http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35089Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:15:38 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35089jessica, bemidji, mnI think that this is a wonderful story. I feel that if her own son wanted a child and there is still is way to give him a child, then good for her. This should not be judged as a selfish thing; people must be more understanding and sensitive in these situations. i hope that all goes well for this family.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35091Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:15:42 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35091Janet, Lebanon, TennesseeYou can not replace a life with another life - your son is dead - I am sorry for that - if he were married and child was then brought forth after death - that I could understand -but to do things this way seems wrong to me - however since the child is on the way and what is done is now done- I pray that the child will not only have a good life - but that he or she will not be bitter for the kind of entrance to this world that they were subject too - where do we draw the line of moral values - http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35092Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:15:43 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35092Bob Dobbs, Cypres Creek, FLVERY, VERY, VERY, VERY SELFISH!!!! I won't regurgitate what a lot of people have already said.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35093Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:15:46 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35093William Birkin, Umbrella, MaineI think you all live under the sea!! Everybody join in! Under the SEA......http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35094Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:15:50 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35094Lindsay, miami, flI think shes being selfish, if he was ment to have a child god would have made it that way. This would only be right if he had a wife that wished to have had a child by him, not some woman that didnt even know him. that's what they have adoption for.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35095Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:15:58 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35095DJ PennsylvaniaMy personal feelings are that this is unethical and disgusting. The son has been gone for four years and it seems her inability to cope with the loss of her son is clouding her judgement for what the future grandchild would experience in life. We shouldn't be so quick to judge the mother solely on the fact the prospectvie grandchild will be left fatherless, as many, many children grow up with only one parent and are quite fine. But, I do agree that this woman is in need of some serious counseling on many issues. My own sons have commented on the future prospect of becoming fathers, but neither have ever mentioned that they want their sperm frozen so I can have a grandchild! No matter how much you would want a grandchild, it's just not right. This is totally unnatural and against all of God's principles. Lady, please get the support, both emotionally and mentally, that you so desperately need and STOP playing GOD!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35096Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:16:01 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35096Mickey in TennesseeSHE IS WRONG. HE SON SHOULD HAVE BEEN THE ONE TO PICK THE MOTHER OF HIS CHILD, A WOMAN HE LOVED NOT A COMPLETE STRANGER. SHE IS CARING THIS WAY TOO FAR. She knows nothing important about his woman. I have 3 sons but never in a million years would I want a grandchild from someone my sons never knew or loved. Lady let gohttp://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35098Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:16:04 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35098Brenda M. Cedar Hill, TexasIt is very sad and hard for a child to lose one parent and be raised by only one parent, but to intentionally cause a child to be born with only 1 parent is selfish. I hope this woman she has chosen knows what she is getting into. Grandma may interfere with the raising of this child. I this woman and the grandmother part ways, what will that do to the Grandma?http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35099Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:16:09 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35099J.J., Canton, New YorkNo one is playing GOD here. If the mother to be winds up pregnant then it was GOD's will. If the pregnancy isn't a success then thats that. I am sure the grandmother would benefit from some counseling and who wouldn't after losing a child. There are alot of children out there with only one parent and they grow up to be outstanding individuals. This child will be loved dearly and will understand that his father died defending this country. There is nothing wrong with her and her sons wish. Who are you people to judge is the question...http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35102Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:16:23 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35102Clyde -- Oxnard, CaliforniaWill The Real Dr. Frankenstein Please Come Down!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35103Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:16:24 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35103Robin-Lynn Chester VTGod is the only one who has the right to judge us in discissions we make in right or wrong! Sometimes the loss of someone we have loved makes one desperate, or wish to have them again or a part of them in our lives once more maybe this her way of not only honoring her son's wishes but to have a part of him in the world to go on and carry his name and legacy, and to know maybe when she hold s that child for the first time she's holding a part of him again. Some people have a hard time with closure and those who find closure easy should not judge those who do! God Bless You in the new found love of your Grandchild!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35105Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:16:34 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35105Marcelo C., Deltona, FLHow do you explain to a child that he was conceived years after his fathers death. How do you explain to a child that everything your mother knows about your father was told to her and not because she actually knew him. In the future events would take place, like the death of the grandmother, then who is left to tell the son what his father was like or what he would do in a situation that the son might confront? I do not believe that what has been decided and done is right or wrong, I just hope all these things had been taken into account when the decision and actions had been made. Sgt. Kevin has passed and his suffering has ended, I just hope his late coming dream does more healing than damage.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35106Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:16:36 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35106Jessica W, Hugo, OklahomaOK-too weird. I can't even begin to imagine the mother's loss, but is having a grandchild w/someone SHE picked out-honoring her son? I think it would be different had he been married @ the time--I mean this isn't someone HE chose to have a baby with. How on earth is someone going to explain this to the child one of these days???? There's enough confusion in the world without adding to it http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35108Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:16:51 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35108Kelly, Corvallis, OregonHaving grown up without a father (due to his decision) I think this is a mistake.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35109Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:16:53 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35109Jen, Portland, ORThere is no such thing as a 19-year-old who can definitively say s/he wants to have children. Nobody can or should know such a thing until well into their 20's, when they've figured out who THEY are first. Even if he did say that, is there no longer a difference between "having a child" and simply procreating? This woman is not honoring her son's wishes, she's selfishly, bizarrely fufilling her own.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35110Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:16:55 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35110Sarah, Boston MAI don't think you can be a daddy is you are not alive. I think it is unfair to the kid.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35111Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:16:58 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35111LPealock, Winder, GAThis is very self righteous, gross, and insane. But I'm sure therapist love the business when the child grows up and goes into therapy because he/she found out he/she was conceived AFTER their father was DEAD. Hum, I don't think recess at school should be an option for this kid. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35114Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:17:17 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35114Susan, Milford, MAThis is ridiculous. This mother needs help in dealing the loss of her son. You cannot replace a lost child with another child. She seems to be dilusional and hearing voices in her head. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35116Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:17:25 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35116Melissa everybody just needs to get over themSELVES in judging this situation. You're all uptight. If someone wants to go through all the trouble and the child has a loving home, great. It ends there for me. If we want to obsess about every child who has a non-traditional upbringing...well...Hmmm, why don't we bring up breastfeeding and talk about how uncomfortable Americans are about that 'titular' subject. Stop calling the grandmother "sick," etc.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35119Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:17:30 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35119Kaye, Minneapolis, MNWhere in this article does it state that the grandmother is in America? Since the article is from Tel Aviv, the soldier was an Israeli soldier and the grandmother sent an emotional plea to "the Israeli public" it logically follows that Rachel Cohen is Israeli. Just an observation.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35121Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:17:43 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35121CarjCREEPY was my first thought, but add "disturbing" and "selfish". I could lose sleep knowing that now even DEAD PEOPLE CAN CONTRIBUTE TO OVERPOPULATION. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35122Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:17:47 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35122Lee Ray PhippsI have to agree that this is not a good thing. Was he the only child? Did he have a living will made up to stress his desires or is this strictly the desires of the mother? The mother needs closure by other means. Maybe his dream also included being married then have children. He most likely wanted to watch his children grow up. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35123Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:17:56 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35123BetsyTo Jackie in Clearwater - you said it best. If this mother's son was meant to be a father, God would not haven taken him before it happened. This is craziness on the "grandmother's" part, pure and simple. Let us know when those kittens are born!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35124Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:18:10 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35124Sharla, Mission Viejo, CAI'm sorry for the loss of this womens son. But I have to agree, it is wrong to bring a child into this already very messed up world and purposely put him/her at an immediate disadvantage, growing up with out a father. And is the grandmother going to have "approval" rights when the mother of her grandchild wants to marry? Possibly marrying a man who will abuse her grandson, or being unfairly treated like so very many step-children are? God help her because she is solely responsible for the outcome of this precious child. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35125Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:18:11 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35125Deanna, Gloucester, MassachusettsOkay, I can see how the mother of the dead son is upset and would like to carry on her son's memory with a grandchild, but honestly, being a child myself whose mother has passed on, I can tell you that everything should be done to prevent a child from having only one parent. This poor child will never have any memories of his/her own about the father. You can show them pictures and tell them stories, but that is not the same and could never replace the real thing. This woman needs to think about the feelings she has, and know that the pain she is going through will be something she's now putting on this child. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35127Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:18:40 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35127Jacque Chiarappa Benicia CAI would just like to say that I see it from both ends which everyone should. However, I agree with all the comments related to the rights of the child. This Grandmother is attempting to live out what she beleives to be the wishes of her son. Understandable. But then to bring a child into the world that will never have a chance to know his biological father and to have to be made to understand that his father was not alive when he was conceived is hard to swallow as an adult, let alone a child. I am not sure how I would feel if I were the only person in the world to be born by a father that wasnt alive before the fact. It's a little creepy.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35129Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:18:44 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35129Frank Simone, NYC, NYPlease tell the 'maybe' grandmother, that her son also appeared in my dream too and said that god would not like him to have a son after he has been dead. Her son also said god then said; "Ahh, what the heck do it anyway, it will give everyone something to read and talk about." Hmm, maybe I should take it to court to block her. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35130Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:18:44 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35130Craig Walenta, Riverdale, NJAs far as I'm concerned do what you want, but you have to admit that its at least a little strange for a father to dead before a child is conceived. Future it could cause some problems. Imagine a situation where a person dies with significant assets, his siblings inherit, and now two years later a child is born. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35132Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:19:07 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35132Jane doeI'm not so sure she got the point! I think he wanted to BE a father not just father a kid from any girl! It's great to carry on the family name but thats not what I think he was getting at!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35133Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:19:24 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35133Jackie Nanuet, NYThis is absolutely the worst idea I have ever heard...the mother of the deceased soldier I believe is not trying to be selfish but her actions are....it is extremely unfair that a child will be brought into this crazy world, knowing his deceased father was dead when he was conceived and his mother and father never knew one another..what is especially disturbing is that the child will one day be aware that he/she was put on this Earth not because he was planned with loving parents, but a mother who was interviewed....this whole story is weird and disturbing..let the son rest in peacehttp://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35134Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:19:24 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35134KM, ST JOSEPH, MI.I SEE A MOVIE IN THIS SCENARIO, DARN, IT WAS ALREADY MADE, " WORLD ACCORDING TO GARP " REMEMBER!!!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35135Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:19:35 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35135Peter Alaimo, Phoenix, AZMost people, unfortunately, seem to see having a child as a way to receive love, not as a way to give love. In other words, it is an act of selfishness. This woman will be happy to have her dead son "replicated". Will the child in question be happy to come into the world guaranteed never to have a father? Again, as with too many people, this woman is an example of bringing life into the world, not to give love, but to selfishly receive it.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35136Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:19:35 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35136Thane WinwardPassing our genetics to an offspring is NOT the same as "fathering a child." To be a Father is a life long process. It is a decision that should be carefully made with the primary consideration in the best interest of the child. The best interest of the child is to have both a Father and a Mother who are committed to each other and committed to raising their children. It is true that extenuating circumstances often necessitate some children be raised outside of the ideal situation. But it is IRRESPONSIBLE to bring a child into such a situation.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35137Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:19:37 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35137D SullyThis women needs to get on with her life, death of a child is hard emotionally for anybody.Another thing is her son was 19yrs old at the time of the request not putting anyone down but your concept of life changes as you grow older assume he was 24 yrs old right now would he want to be a father? this lady needs to deal with her grief and get on in the right now http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35138Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:19:38 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35138Jim, Columbus - OhioIf I am reading this correctly, this is a family from Isreal. The issue here appears to be the request of a son to father a child, his death and a mothers wish to honor her sons request. Perhaps this could be something wonderful for all of those involved. I know I always desired to have a child to carry a part of me into the future. Seems like a logical request. Why do so many people find fault in things that they don't understand or are different than what they believe? http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35139Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:19:40 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35139McCray, offshore GoMjust my opinion, but whats the difference between this and the "picked" woman going to a sperm bank? i think she has the right to do so. sorry, if this has already been mentioned.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35141Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:19:50 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35141TOM KANSAS CITY, MOHOW LONG DOES SPERM LAST, AFTER A PERSON IS DEAD, A YEAR OR MORE?http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35142Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:19:53 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35142maria youngstown ohioI am a mother of two that lost my husband 4 years ago. It was our dream to have a boy. Had i known about this procedure i would of done the same thing. I wish you the best of luck with your grandchildhttp://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35143Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:19:55 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35143AnnRE: "There should have been no reason for this mother to have to fight this in court as her son was defending our country. gigi, williamsport PA (Sent Thursday, January 18, 2007 " READ THE ARTICLE PEOPLE! They are ALL in Israel. That woman whould have spent the money on a psychiatrist for herself! Sorry but her "dream" is not some message from beyond the grave but produced by her own obsession. Sick sick sick http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35144Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:20:02 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35144VSALINAS, FONTANA, CAI THINK THIS IS VERY WIERD ,I COULD SEE HOW THIS WOULD MAKE MORE SENSE IF THIS WAS THE GIRLFRIEND FIGHTING TO GET PREGNANT FROM HER LOVING DEAD BOYFRIEND THAT BECAUSE OF THE WAR THEY WERE NOT IN CONTACT TO BE ABLE TO CONCIEVE A CHILD OR EVEN THE MOM HELPING THE GIRLFRIEND BUT ALL THIS COURT BATTLES TO NOT EVEN HAVE A LOVING SIGNIFICANT OTHER TO CARRY THE CHILD AND THE SOLDIERS MEMORY ON? YOU HAD TO GET A COMPLETE STRANGER ? THAT IS THE WIERD PART TO ME, VERY SELFISH AND FREAKY,POOR MOM THAT CANT GET OVER HER OWN GRIEVING, SHE SHOULDNT HAD TO INVOLVE INNOCENT PEOPLE IN HER GRIEVING FOR HER SELFISH NEEDShttp://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35145Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:20:04 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35145Fay CarmonaI am a Grandmother of six and can understand her wanting a grandchild. But did she look into the legal parts of this? In the state of Michigan, grandparents have NO RIGHTS (unless they have full custody of course). Hopefully this has a happy ending. It's unthinkable to lose a child, but to suffer that loss twice would be devastating.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35147Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:20:15 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35147Yarnell, Waipahu HawaiiOk this is jacked up that a court rulled that parents have the rights over the dead mans body/sperm and not his wife!? Even the Jewish religion teaches that a man LEAVES father and mother to marry his wife and they become ONE. The wife clearly should have the right to do with the body what she wants not the wanna be grandma!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35149Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:20:34 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35149Bruce T. Des Moines IA This is why this world is going to hell in a handbasket. everyone is so busy trying to legislate morality, and make huge issues out of frivolous nonsence. This boy who died was too young to even know if he wanted to be a father or not. Just look at all the "fathers" who donated sperm and are alive and well but do not support or recognize the children who they are responsible for. His mother needs heavy duty grief counseling. The child who will be born out of this fiasco will have no father, a mother that his father never knew, and a grandmother who is a total flake. My sympathies to this poor, unfortunate child. May God bless him or her in spite of his space cadet "grandmother." Jacine from Florida is obviously one of those totally out of touch with reality along with "grandma." http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35150Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:20:37 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35150Kaylynn, Clarksville, ARI hope the pregnancy goes well but I do not agree with what the grandmother has done. I think she is trying to play God. I believe everything happens for a reason. If he didn't have a child before he died then it wasn't meant to be. And this woman that she has chosen to carry the baby-she doesn't know for sure she is going to be a good mom or person just b/c she asked her some questions. There are many other ways she could honor her son.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35151Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:20:37 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35151Ron Cowens, Alton, MO 65606Kevin's mother knew him best. She had probably wondered how he would feel about becoming a father even after death. There is the answer. If this is what Kevin would have wanted, then that would have been Kevin's business and no one elses.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35152Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:20:38 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35152Caroline, New YorkDear Anna Gulehy--what in the world are you talking about, or do you even know? Why would Dr. Mengele be "ecstatic" that a Jewish mother is creating another Jewish life from her dead son's sperm? Don't you think he would be horrified? Sometimes it pays to think about your opinions before you state them in public and appear foolish. Also, sometimes it pays to realize that some things are none of our business and people should be able to live their lives the way they choose to.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35153Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:20:39 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35153S. Glikin Tampa, FloridaWhat a sad story. I fear for this child's emotional future if the grandmother is involved in his upbringing. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35154Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:20:46 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35154MARLA WILSONWHEN THE BABY IS BORN AND IT'S A GIRL WHAT IS SHE GOING TO DO THEN? SEEMS TO ME THAT SHE WANTS A REPLACEMMENT.... THEN SHE IS GOING TO HAVE A CUSTODY BATTLE.... BUT AT LEAST THE COURT WILL NOW ALLOW SINGLE WOMEN TO HAVE THEIR RIGHTShttp://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35156Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:20:59 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35156Shelby BrooksIf we allow this, is the child now entitled to military and dependent benefits from the Government? I didn't see where the "19" year old (whom is really still a child himself) really could have had the mental fortitude to make such a long term decision. What if the child has defects? Will she still love and want it? Who is going to raise the child? The Grandmother? Now no father OR Mother. Will he constantly be compared to his father. Will they love him if he is different? Too many unanswered questions. If it were God's will for her son to have a child, he would have. Thank You SC http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35158Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:21:07 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35158GL. Los AngelesI admit this is a strange story, though I don't personally have an ethical/moral problem with it. Personally I don't think I would go to such lengths without good reason. But I'm sure I don't want the governments and courts telling my family what we may or may not do with our own bodies - as long as we're not creating a public health issue...http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35159Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:21:14 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35159Kathy, Rochester, NYWrong, wrong, wrong! Another fatherless child in a war ravaged country. I'm sorry for this woman's loss and pain...but this just isn't right. Somewhere along the line we have to combine morality and concience with technology. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35161Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:21:31 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35161Glenn, Minneapolis, MNThe genetic relationship between the father and an offspring is only one component in the child's development. He may have wanted an offspring, but he is not there to nurture and educate the child. He is placing that child under someone else's guidance. The legacy that he will leave will be only minimally his. Scientifically successful, but societally irrelevant.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35162Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:21:57 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35162Christine B., KC, MOIf a woman wants to selfishly bring a fatherless child into the world there is nothing anyone can do about it (unfortunately). It is wrong on so many levels however, to take sperm from a deceased person who has not expressedly said that is his wish. He may have wanted a child, but would he have wanted a child he could not love and raise? Would he have wanted a child to be burdened by the fact that he is no longer living? I cannot think of one person who would rather be dead but still have a child in the world! The mother needs to get a grip, truly think about the consequences and move on. If my family was able freeze an egg from me post mortem that would eventually be used for an heir I would be furious. My body is mine! No mother, father, sibling or even spouse should be able to dictate my offspring without my consent. If its not in my will or I was too young to have a will I could not have truly wanted it enough and therefore NO ONE has a right to play God with my genes!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35163Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:22:00 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35163Vickie, Springfield, OhioWhat if the mother-to-be does not want the young man's mother to be a grandmother figure? What rights will she have then? It seems very complicated.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35165Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:22:14 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35165Paul, Chicago, ILGigi get a clue... Gaza... not Williamsport, PA Israeli. Its not "our country"http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35166Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:22:18 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35166Greg, Chandler, ArizonaThis is the oddest story I have ever heard. I understand the mother being upset over her son's death, but he was not actively trying to conceive a child, it was something he mentioned to her. To bring another life into this world after freezing your son's sperm, winning a court battle, and choosing a random woman to be the child's mother is just insane. Plain and simple. This poor woman needs a hobby and a grief counselorhttp://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35167Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:22:18 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35167David Moreno, Visalia, CaliforniaJust plain weird. The poor child will be born to a mother the father never knew or loved, and of course with no father. Just to many people playing with nature. Just one more step to the END!!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35168Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:22:25 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35168Karen E, CaliforniaI am a single mother of a son who is in the military. He is my only child. He turned out just fine without a father around. I look forward to the day I become a grandmother. I totally understand where this woman is coming from. I don't think she is selfish or sick. Yes, she is mourning the loss of her son. And yes, she yearns to be a grandmother. There is nothing wrong with either of those. There is nothing wrong with the way she achieves grandparenthood. It's really no different than going to a sperm bank to become pregnant. I would probably do the same thing. My son has many female friends, and that is where I'd start. If none of them was willing to carry his child, I would look elsewhere. I would then want to raise my own grandchild, maybe with the help of the birth mother. You go lady!!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35170Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:22:33 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35170Kim, Fort Worth, TXI believe the mother took the wishes of her son to far. Yes, I imagine that one day he would have liked to have a child to raise, to celebrate birthdays and holidays with, to teach to ride a bicycle and all of the things that parents do. But this man died a very tragic and untimely death. Science can make this man a father, but I believe the dream of the young man was to be a "daddy".http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35171Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:22:38 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35171J Bowen Odessa, Texas Why deprive a child of a living, loving, parent. This is just wrong.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35172Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:22:49 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35172Pam B . Kent,Wa.I had a son that passed away in 1991 and I could not imagine saving his sperm so I could have a grandchild.I believe that lady is very selfish.Not only will this child not have his father but is the grandmother going to take the child and raise him? I believe she is just refusing to let go of her dead son.I do feel sorry for her but she is still very selfish to put herself first.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35173Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:22:50 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35173Dee Snider, Tuskeegee, ALHaving a child doesn't make you a Father, raising one does. How very, very sad.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35174Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:22:56 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35174IzzyI find this quite disturbing from a legal, medical and psychological standpoint. I think this woman has unresolved grief issues (a grief counselor is a fantastic idea), legally, please, what use would a mother have for her dead child's sperm? Oh, it's just too disturbing to even fathom. She's trying to transpose a life cut short with a life that she chooses to bring into the world, because her son came to her in a dream and asked her where his child was? May I suggest this woman seek the help of a good psychiatrist? I believe anti-psychotic medication may be in this woman's future. I believe this is entirely a psychotic episode. And to "choose" a woman to bear a child? Can we all ask now what will happen to this woman once she gives birth? Will she be pushed aside so that this mother can "raise" her "son's child" and thus make her feel that she was just a baby incubator? This all just smacks of mental illness to me. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35176Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:23:02 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35176A. Nonymous - Sarcasm City USAI think we need to work on our comprehension skills here. Go back and re-read the blog slowly. Nowhere does it say the dead soldier's mother is in the states. Let's also check our facts. No American soldiers are deployed in Isreal guarding Isreali settlements. This was an Isreali soldier guarding Isreali interests and died doing so. His Isreali mother fought the matter through Isreali courts. Young Isrealis are all required to perform a minimum of two years of national service, most enlist in the army to satisfy this obligation. Kevin Cohen probably didn't have a choice to be where he was when he was killed. Eventhough I know better, I am still shocked at how my fellow Americans would by and large instantly assign only American identities to the players in this story. If you people open your minds and read news above and beyond msnbc.com you would realize there is a whole big world out there, it doesn't drop off where the Atlantic or Pacific oceans start, if you don't believe me, check for yourself. And the other coutries of the world have their own armed forces and everything.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35177Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:23:03 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35177trish, boston, massachusettsShe says his dream was to one day father a child which would involve more than just the contribution of sperm. What she has chosen to do does not honor his dream of being a father/parent of a child if that was a part of his dream. Only someone who has lost a child can understand the exquisite pain of that loss and what it does to a parent and the directions a parent might feel compelled to take, in order to have some part of their child live on. This direction she has taken does seem to speak more to her need than to his dream if it was truly to be a parent... or was his dream to have a child that would carry on his family genes then what she has done does meet a part of his dream....the saddest thing is we can never know because only he could answer those questions....Whatever action we the adults should always put the best interest of the child first. Has she done this ??http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35179Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:23:13 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35179Heather D, Dudley, MAI am sure her son meant that he wanted to have a son with someone he loved.. Not with some stranger.. how do you know this woman will even take care of your grandson just because you gave he an interview doesn't mean she will raise the baby they way her son intended.. I am very sorry that she lost her son.. But coming from experience growing up with out your biological father causes alot of un-answered questions.. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35180Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:23:18 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35180k g, virginiaGod is the source and giver of life. Any judging about this woman's decision should be left up to Him. We simply aren't qualified to weigh in from a judgmental perspective.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35181Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:23:23 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35181rob christopher, chicago, ILThis sad, sad tale reflects on the sad fact that everyone's life is merely symbolic of someone else's life, a tribute to the ego of an elder. You were no more than fathered for the right reasons than the politician who symbolically broke ground with a shovel for a smiling photo op built a skyscraper. Not only do lazy people father children, now dead ones can, too. Somehow this story reminds me of the story about the man who was so lazy he married a woman who was already pregnant. Well, at least he was able to stick around afterwards. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35186Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:23:44 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35186Sylvia Keiser, Aurora CO.I had a son die when he was 17, he was twin. So I understand how it feels to lose and greeve for a child. I now have four grandsons from my serviving sons. They are very special people. Their personalitys are made up from both their father and mother; wonderful and warts. I've not a clue why my sons chose the women they did to bare their sons. I wouldn't presume to do the choosing for them. This grandmother has turned the birth mother of her grandchild into a contest. A reality show that has gone too far. Grandma the grandchild ship sunk the moment your son died and you're messing with the ballance of the world. Life, death and rebirth.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35187Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:23:46 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35187JESSICA, ROCHESTER NYI am disgusted with this entire story! I highly doubt this is what he meant when he told her that he wanted to father a child. It's a sad story, especially since he was 19 at the time he died, but what is really sad is that this child will grow up with no idea who his parents are because grandma can't let go.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35271Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:31:09 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35271Kathy, Paris, TexasIt is an incredibly selfish woman who would go to such great lengths to create a life to fill this void in hers. I do sympathize for her loss, but such is life. No one lives forever. Move on. I'm sure she could find a way to channel her emotions in a more productive manner, such as volunteering to work with children at a local school or daycare. There are so many children in this world already who could benefit from a dedicated positive influence in their lives. She shouldn't have to look to hard to find one.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35272Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:31:11 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35272Tammy, Wilmington, NCThis is absurd. I can understand if this was his wife wanting a child, but his mother?? So, some strange woman, whom he has never met will carry and give birth to this child?!?! This mother just needs to understand that she had her own children and that's the end of her making "baby" decisions. Making a choice like this should most definately NOT come from a man's mother. She needs to see a grief counselor before this woman actually announces her pregnancy. I feel deeply for this innocent child. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35273Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:31:31 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35273God's Servent.This is not GODS will it is the womans will. God has made us free moral agents and has given us the option to choose HIS will or our own. We just must be ready to face the consequences that follow the choices that we make.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35274Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:31:31 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35274Gina, Morgantown, West VirginiaAfter visually scanning about 90% of these posts, it seems the biggest argument among the respondents is not necessarily the morality of her deed, but the significance of a one parent household versus a two parent structure. I have seen posts regarding "statistics"; those mentioning the "need" for fathers, and certainly the one's that use the word selfish. Has anyone thought about the concept/action of love? I think that is what will count the most whether this woman is right/wrong, selfish, grieving, insane or any other kind of adjective one wishes to use to describe her. Undoubtly, this child will be raised in a loving environment; and that is what is needed above anything else when faced with rearing a child. For those who are against single parents, again, if the mother OR the father can raise a child in a well-adjusted, LOVING, and nurturing setting, then so be it. After divorcing, my sister was left to raise two daughters in a single-parent household. 15 years later, her oldest is preparing to graduate Summa Cum Laude from a VERY prestigious institution while her youngest is beginning to embark on her college experience. I, too am a single parent by CHOICE (her father is a knucklehead). My 9 year-old daughter is a well-adjusted, straight A student (and brat:-))in a private school. So much for theories on crazed, "fatherless" children with no direction. Bottom line: PARENTS, LOVE YOUR CHILDREN...FROM THE HEART!!! Do anything and everthing within your power to ensure they are educated, nurtured, and protected. It's your duty. Don't allow societal constraints to misdirect the way we care for and raise our kids---DEAD or ALIVE.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35346Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:38:22 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35346Dee, New Orleans, LAPeople should not judge, because we do not know all the details. A similar situation happened in my family. My cousin was severely injured and in a coma, his fiance and my aunt and uncle made the decision to harvest his sperm in case he was unable to father a child after he came out of his coma. Unfortunately, after 13 months, he passed away. My aunt and uncle and his fiance moved on with their lives. A few years after his death, my cousin's best friend and his best friend's wife came to my aunt and uncle and told them that the wife was willing to be a surrogate and they wanted to raise my cousins children. Everything went well, and they were blessed with 2 beautiful children. My aunt and uncle are doting grandparents, and while the children's father is not their biological father, it does not matter. By the way, my cousin was adopted, so technically, my aunt and uncle are not biological grandparents either. I wish this woman luck, I hope everything works out as well for her as it has for my aunt and uncle.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35347Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:38:26 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35347Lesli Smith, Payette, IDSo where does the child go? With the Grandma...or will it live with the mother? and where is the Grandma, is she right close to where her new grandchild will be, and the mother of the child is in another place...will she even see the child? Wow tons of questions here......http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35348Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:38:27 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35348Val,Chicago, IllinoisIt is very sad that this woman lost her son, but this is just strange. I think that she really needs a grief counselor more than anything.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35349Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:38:42 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35349Nikki Battle Ground WAI would understand if the son was married at the time of his death and their dream was for them to start a family. But his mother needed to "find" someone to carry her grandchild. To me that is very selfish. I understand wanting to carry on your son but you cant bring him back no matter what you do. Become a person who can help out children who dont have parents that way you can always be a grandma. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35350Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:38:48 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35350Elizabeth, Peoria IllinoisI truly feel for this woman's loss and understand what's she's trying to do, but come on. Not all your dreams were meant to come true. I used to dream of being an actress or singer, but realize now that was futile. How many couples, or women dreamed of being parents only to find out that they are unable to have children? Do they rush out and freeze sperm from some dead relative to do it? No. They adopt or move on. If this woman wants to do something in her son's honor, start a foundation or charity in his name, plant a memory garden, work with families that have lost children or siblings to wars, be a mentor, something. Bringing a child into this world, via extracted sperm from a dead man and a woman that does not know you OR your son, is not the best or most constructive use of your grief and need to honor your child. Maybe she does need some help, I don't know as I'm not a psychologist. She does need an outlet for her feelings and desire to do something to remember her son.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35351Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:38:56 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35351Amanda, Pgh PASorry but this is creepy! I understand that it must be very hard for a mother to realize that her son is gone and that she will never be a grandmother, but it's wrong to create this in an unnatural way. I feel bad for this child that might be conceived. Not only will he/she lose out on a father, but a mother as well b/c I'm sure that the child will not be involved with the birth mother.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35353Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:39:06 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35353Kendra, Caney,KSIs this lady going to really know her grandchild if the mother and child live in another country or did she take a lady from her country and bring her into a strange land just so she could be a grandmother? Bringing a fatherless child into the world will not heal your wounds. You need to go to some counseling. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35355Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:39:35 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35355Susan, Downingtown, PAMy father was hospitalized from the time I was 6 mos. until his death when I was barely 4 years old so I was raised by a single parent and I turned out just fine. While I would never choose to raise a child as a single parent, I do not have the right to tell someone else she does not have the right to do so. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35363Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:39:59 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35363john doe, Charlotte, NCThe operative word in all of this is "father". The man had a dream of "fathering a child". This man, sadly, is dead. He cannot "father" a child. His mother in this case, can only donate his sperm. The future grandmother is doing nothing toward fulfilling her son's dream. She is only compounding problems for the living because of her understandably horrific grief. Very sad.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35364Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:40:00 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35364dianeWeird things do happen. But come on!!!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35365Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:40:02 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35365Maude,R.S.,Wy.Why do so many worry about this.Everything happens for a reason.The reason we are all here is to learn how to love and be loved.Stop judging.Start loving.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35366Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:40:09 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35366Andrea, Phoenix, AZWow...what can you say about this? On one hand it's kind of creepy, and the knee-jerk reaction is to say why in the world would they let her do this? But when you stop and really think about it, how many children are born into this world without parents (and we'll just think about those born while their father is killed in Iraq)...and then think about all the kids who are born unwanted, unplanned for, unloved and I have to stop and say - wow, this child will be cherished, yes it will come into the world after it's father's death - it will never physically know it's father...but all the other things have been taken into account to offer up to this child the best possible scenario for entering the world: the fitness of the mother both physically, mentally, medically and emotionally. This child is most definately wanted, planned for and will be loved deeply. And one day, this child will have a pride in knowing that it's father died protecting his people. I don't think it's fair to accuse the mother of trying to replace her dead son...I think (speaking as a mother myself) that she just wants to fufill a dream she knew her son had and give an opportunity for her son's spirit and legacy to carry on. There is nothing wrong with that...in fact it's quite noble.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35367Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:40:16 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35367KFC Mopper St. Paul, MNthis is sick and wrong... sick and wrong!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35368Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:40:17 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35368Leshemia, Honolulu, HII really don't want to sound morbid here, but how healthy is the grandmother? My point is, what if she dies in the next few years...then what? I am assuming that the woman they interviewed is nothing more than a surrogate (pls. correct me if I am wrong) so if/when Granny kicks the bucket then what happens to the child? Also, I am a little vague on the details. Was the kid an Israeli soldier or an American soldier? As far as that dream goes, maybe the grandmother had this on her mind when she went to bed and it manifested into a dream and she just took it upon herself to say that the dream meant that this is what she had to do. I don't understand how the courts could possibly grant her permission to do this based on her testimony alone that this was her son's last request. Where is the proof of that? Maybe she just wanted a grandson and concocted this entire story and now she is getting what she wants. I agree with a previous post...if he wanted to father children why didn't he have his sperm banked? http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35369Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:40:17 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35369AmberI think if this was his wish than let her do it.It is what he wanted.He died so we could live so why not give him what he asked for.And everyone is talking about bringing a child in here with his father being dead.How is it any different than the dead beat dads out there that don't take care of their kids.But hey us single moms still manage to make it without them and so far my kid is doing fine without a dad.And you know just because he doesn't have his biological dad what's to say that he won't have a dad at all.You don't have to be the sperm donor to be a dad you just have to be there for the kid and love the kid like it was your own.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35370Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:40:18 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35370mikeYou idiots realize that this isn't a u.s. soldier right? Is an IDF Soldier. Israeli Defense Force. You'll notice the IDF in the title?http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35373Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:40:33 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35373washington dc"Kevin Cohen was laid to rest yesterday evening at the Petah Tikva Military Cemetery. He is survived by his parents, Ya'acov and Rahel, two brothers aged 22 and 13, and a seven-year-old sister. " You would think she could have grandchildren from the other children she already has. His mother is not American, they are Iranian immigrants to Israel.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35375Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:40:49 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35375JH Milwaukee, WIMy Fiance has cancer and his sperm has been frozen for future use. In our discussions, he has given me the right to use his sperm if he should die. I worry that if he should die before we marry, will I have issues with the court system? I would be devastated if someone told me I couldn't live out our future plans or carry on his name. Her story is a bit more extreme, but I thank her for paving the way for others in situations similar to mine. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35376Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:40:51 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35376Amber Smith, Santa Ana, CaliforniaI do not think this is right at all. The mother clearly wants a replacement of the son whom died. I can say I would consider doing this type of thing as well but I then would think of what that poor child is going to have to be put through nowing where he/she came from.. It is really sad she is feeling like this and I do agree that she needs to speak to someone. Hopefully she rethinks this...http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35377Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:40:52 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35377MarkGina, it's one thing to raise a child without a father. it's an entirely different thing to extract sperm from a corpse and "find" a mother to bear a child with that sperm. i am happy for you and your sister, but you didn't respond to an "ad" asking to have you birth the child of a dead soldier. its totally different and i am sorry, but you can't be an expert just because you're a single mom with a well-adjusted child, or because you have a nephew who's intelligent.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35379Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:40:55 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35379Margie, Jacksonville, FloridaWhy are we judging this woman, to say this is wrong or not? they mention above to write a "biological will" so the person authorize the use of the sperm after his death...so it is not done against his will, and the mother stated this was her son's wish... the same way we donate an organ. How do you explain an orphan child that his parents abandoned him? or are in prison, or were drug addicts and couldn't take care of him? who is playing God here?http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35380Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:40:56 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35380HABIBA, seattle, WAWhen you think about the young man who was murdered..his wish was to father a child. I assume, as anyone else probably would, that this meant having the role of a father someday. raising his own son or daughter, playing with that child, teaching wrongs and rights to that child, watching his child grow into an intelligent beautiful woman or man, and knowing that his child looks up to no one more than their father. I don't think his dream was to have his sperm be implanted into a woman to give birth to a child that he will never know or meet, and even worse, to a child that will never know or meet his father, except hear stories that will seem very strange to him about how he came to be. I understand the grandmother wanted this to somehow fulfill her dreams to see her dead son in the face of this new baby to be, but it just doesnt sound like what her son would have wanted. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35381Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:41:00 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35381Anica, Salem, ORI have one question, who is going to take the place of the father role in this childs life? And who will take care of the child when the grandmother passes away. Sounds very selfish to me and I think this child will be very confused!!!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35382Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:41:09 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35382Jakes, Cherry Valley, NYThis is an issue that the Court System, in any country, should not even get invovled in. This is not only creepy and disturbing but raises issues of ethics and morality. I feel for the mother but this is not a question of grandchildren but of "cloning" or recreating her lost child.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35383Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:41:26 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35383Magic Talisman, Prague, CZThere is some seriously wrong with this..I could totally agree to it had it been the dead son's wife/girlfriend... but the mother? http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35384Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:41:59 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35384Glenda Shugars, VirginiaI think this Grandmother did everything the right way and wish her success. She has chosen a responsible woman who wants a baby and an extended family. Better situation then anonymous sperm donation, in my opinion. Why shouldn't this woman's son have his progeny as long as it is handled as thoughtfully as this has been. He gave his life for his country, let him give his country a new little life. May the Lord bless them with a healthy child.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35385Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:42:15 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35385Mark, Russellville, KY This is the greatest honor that could ever happen to a fallen hero. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35386Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:42:15 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35386P. Johnson, VAI thik everyone that has a negative opinion should really keep it to theirselves, until they sit down and evalute thier on lives. Nobody knows the effect the death of a child has in a person life. Until you walk in this women's shoes, I think that you all need to shut up and start looking in your closets for skeltons. Stop judging!!! God is the only rightous JUDGE!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35387Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:42:46 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35387Andi, Juneau, Alaska"It was a mother's instinct that led Cohen to request doctors to freeze her dead son’s sperm." What kind of crap is this? A mothers instinct? I think not. An instinct is defined as 'a strong natural impulse'.. and nothing about this is natural. If the woman wants a child, let her go adopt or try to have one herself. I can't believe they let her take bodily fluids from her dead son to begin with. This woman seriously needs help, maybe some electric shock therapy? This is truly a nauseating example of the justice system's complete lack of ethics.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35388Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:42:51 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35388Jenifer Ann, Indianapolis, INEveryone has their opinion on this, and I am sure none of us are right. Someday we will all stand before God and He will be the judge at that point. God is the giver and taker of life. He ordained a marriage and children are to come from this marriage. If we read the Bible, we can get the answeres. As for all of us scholars, we need to keep our mouths shut until we really know what we are talking about.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35389Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:43:07 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35389Barbara Martinez, Van Nuys, CAI understand that her son wanted to be a father and it is truly sad that he died, but by having this woman have his son, it doesn’t make him a father, it makes him a sperm donor.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35390Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:43:20 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35390Jar, Toronto, CanadaOk, some of you are putting a focus on grandparenthood here. However, one does not HAVE to become a grandparent, and that is far and away from being a PRIORITY in life. Secondly, one's desire to become a grandparent should and shall have *no bearing on whether their child shall have children*, i.e., if your mother is coaxing the day you have kids... tough. The decision is yours (and the other person parenting your child) and yours alone. Not your parents'. I'm sorry if I offended any parents with almost-breeding-age offspring: this is simple truth, people do not make life-changing decisions for their parents' sake. It is senseless and rather selfish. You wonder about the debt children owe their parents right? Well consider that the debt carries on with grandchildren: if your child doesn't have children, he/she is making a sacrifice that is in itself a great debt. I myself will not be a breeder and so a heavy burden (that comes from fighting all my breeding instincts) already lies on my shoulder, one I shall bear until I am hopefully, an old man. That being said, please realize that Ms. Cohen isn't doing this for HER, she's under the rather misguided notion that she's doing this for her son. What of Kevin's FATHER's opinion? No mention of him, and his role is equally as valid as grandmother Cohen's, if he's still around.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35391Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:43:22 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35391Chris C., MemphisThis woman obviously needs some psychological help. I fully support our President and our troops, however, to waste taxpayer dollars and time in the court system with a case such as this is so very wasteful and unnecessary. Where should we draw the line? I think the most obvious place is when, um...When you die! http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35392Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:43:26 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35392laser41, Rockford, ILI'm sorry but this is wrong. Whoever said this woman needs a grief counselor was right on. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35393Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:43:35 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35393Craig Lynes, Dallas, TexasYikes, seems like a bad precedent to start. Isn't this tantamount to "ordering a grandchild"? Just because you can do it, doesn't mean you should do it. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35394Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:43:39 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35394Tracy, Estero, FloridaI feel sorry for this woman but I feel even more sorry for this child. How very very selfish of this woman. There are plenty of children waiting for adoption. Furthermore, why do human beings choose to play God??????http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35395Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:43:41 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35395Chloe, WAWow! This situation is a touchy one and leaves me awestruck. However, it is not our place to judge this woman so heavily. What bothers me more is the apparent lack of a proper English class taken by a shockingly high level of responders to this article.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35396Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:43:42 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35396David, Las Cruces, NMI have been attending religious education classes and one of the items we have been taught is that God will not allow a child to be conceived if he does not approve of it. The mind of God is a mystery and we do not what purpose he has for this child. Our approval is not necessary.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35397Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:43:48 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35397Sherry Nassau BahamasEVERYONE THAT CONDEMNS THIS WOMAN(ESPECIALLY IN THE NAME OF GOD) SHOULD REMEMBER THAT HE ALSO SAID "HE THAT IS WITHOUT SIN, CAST THE FIRST STONE". ONLY GOD CAN JUDGE AND WHEN HE DOES HE PROMISED TO DO SO WITH MERCY!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35398Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:43:51 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35398K. Natzel, Niantic, CTI cannot imagine the grief from the death of a child, but I agree that this mother needs to go to counseling to deal with her son's death. Having a grandchild from her dead son will not bring him back. The psychological impact on the grandchild has obviously not been considered. I think this is a very selfish act. If she wants to do something in remembrance of her son, adopt a child who needs love and a home. That would be the greatest honor to him.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35399Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:44:00 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35399Walker, Portland, OregonHow unusual. Personally, if my child were to die before fathering children, I would just not have any grand children by him. As sad as it would make me, it would just be something that "was not to be". And yes, my son is "the end of the line". Grief causes people to do irrational things, it is a shame that this mother feels that a child from her dead son will fill the void. What about the child? What will he/she say when someone in life asks him/her about his/her dad? When the date of his/her dad's death comes up, and it will. And the childs birthdate comes up, and it will. He or she will be forced to explain.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35400Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:44:01 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35400Ebony, Exuma Bahamassome people may find it strange what you are interested in doing as a memory of your child but however i think its the most wounderful thing you could of think off. you can always have something physically to remind you off your dear child. Just make sure take care of your grandchild and the angel that decided to have him or her. God Bless and continue to make you happy from this day forward. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35401Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:44:10 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35401Jenna, Little Rock, ARIn comment to Jacini who said that children are born in this country every day without fathers...that doesn't make it right!! It's a selfish thing to knowlingly bring a child into this world knowing it will grow up without a father. There are so many loving couples who aren't able to have children that would provide a stable two parent home for a child, and there are way too many young single women out there having babies and then struggling to raise them. What this grandmother is doing is selfish and she is doing it out of grief for her son. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35402Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:44:13 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35402NATESTUPID, WHY WOULD YOU WANT A DEAD MAN'S SPERM, ESPECIALLY IF YOU WERE HIS MOTHER. IT IS TOO CREEPY AND BIZZARE TO OWN THE SPERM OF YOUR DECEASED CHILDREN? DOES IT MEAN THE OVARIES OF THE DAUGHTER ARE HERS ALSO...http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35403Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:44:16 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35403Single Parent-Raised by a Single Parent, West VirginiaMy question is who will financially support this child. The father is not around, will the grandmother be supporting her grandchild? Like so many others who have spoken, I believe that the grandmother expounded on a casual comment made by her son, in an attempt to keep him alive for her. Regardless of the child being brought up in a single parent home, this child will experience emotions that we can't even begin to imagine. Maybe some of the extensive interviewing should have been done on the grandmother before this event was pushed to this point. Grief causes us to do crazy things.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35404Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:44:18 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35404Aishwarye Soon-Yong, Georgetown GuyanaOnly God can judge. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35405Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:44:20 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35405Frances Keever,Mannford,OK I just dont get this...It's not for a dead son,its for his mother.He and his dreams are gone.She needs some help to realise that this child,if there is one,is not for him,but her.A very sad state of affairs.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35407Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:44:35 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35407A concerned citizen, NY, NYThis is an absolutely selfish, pathetic, and ill-contrived decision. This child will be born with no father and who knows if the birth mother would want to stick around to raise the kid or not, since it's coming from an unknown. The child will be doomed from the start, will no doubt have serious psychological and emotional issues. What a sad mad world this has become. Pathetic. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35408Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:44:36 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35408Rock, Coogswell Springfield ILWhen I read this story I found it touching, and after purousing the comments of others I felt moved to comment myself. What this woman has done is continue her family line and provide herself with a grandchild. If she and the proposed mother's lives are enriched by this then none of us should have anything to say but congats on your blessing.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35409Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:44:40 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35409Nick, Mich.Awesome! But I think even better she should use his sperm to clone him. That way she can have her son back. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35410Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:44:42 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35410Valeria , Hampton, VAThis is in my opinion which I am entitled to. This is the most craziest thing I've heard in a long time. I feel if it was meant for this man to have a child then he would of. The grandmother mention her son came to her in a dream. When her son died he went to wherever his soul deserve to go. I feel this is all “what she wants” and she is still grieving tremendously and need counseling. What happens if the volunteered mother don't want to have anything to do with this grandmother once baby is here? Next, we will here she (grandmother) wants custody. What happens once this child gets of age and his/her life goes nothing like he or she wants it and they regrets being forced to come in this confused world? Is the grandmother ready for this or will she be living to take on all this? Being a mother of three, one have to take everything in consideration. I have two sons and a daughter, God forbid, but if they die without having children I could never do such a thing. If they want children, then they would have to take these measures before anything happen to them. Or make a will and perhaps froze their sperms and store in a sperm bank then I can say this is what they want. My sons say all the time they want two children each. That is saying they wan,t not what I want and they are stating what they want in their lifetime. I doubt a responsible man would want his mother to take sperms from his dead body and have children that he will never see or be able to play with. WOW!!!! This world does not have long because everyone want to play God and we all fall very short of that. Valeria, Virginia http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35412Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:44:43 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35412Brenda, Ohiois this an american soldier and a grandmother in the united states seeking out an israeli mother for this child? and is the grandmother still in the united states. the article did not exactly say where she was living. but she was putting flowers on a grave-in the states? then why an israeli mother? just a thought?http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35413Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:44:49 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35413Robert M. Hilton Ellijay, GeorgiaIt's not up to anyone to pass judgement on this woman. It's something she strongly felt her son wanted. If it were your son would you not do the same? As far as this boy not having a father, well to me it seems he will have all the love a father can give from his Grandparents and family, especially the woman who gives birth to him....lots of perfectly normal children are born without a father. So when the time comes to tell the boy how he became I dont think he's going to say..."Well if thats how I was born then I don't think I wanna be here...NOT!!! Everyone is so quick to judge others especially when its someone else instead of taking a look in the mirror. Live! Laugh! Love!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35414Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:44:58 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35414Sandra A, Kansas City, KansasThis is NOT right! A child being born to a mother the father never knew?? What can she tell her child when she asks about his/her father?? Go see grandma?? I have a sneaky suspicion that the grandma picked an isreali woman to mother the child so that she could take custody over it after its birth. The grandma needs professional help!! http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35415Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:45:03 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35415Keith L. Richmond KY It sounds like his wish was to father a child. Witch to me means, to have a child and be a father figure for this child. Not for a woman to raise his child without his presence.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35416Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:45:03 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35416Melissa N.B., TexasI can see both sides, but this lady needs to get over that her son is dead. I'm sure there were MANY other men that were in the military who wanted to one day become a father and never got the chance to do that because they passed away. This issue is definitely playing with God and she needs to sit down and think about that. Not everyone gets what they want in life.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35418Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:45:07 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35418Sherry Johnson, Cedar Rapids, IAI read thru about 90% of these posts. Most had very compelling arguements on both sides. I have to ask though, were is the line drawn at? Are we going to allow sperm (and eggs) to be harvested from deceased people in order to get the stem cell research off the ground? And more cloning? Or harvesting these "created" children in order to help along the rate at which people wait for replacement organs? I think we aren't that far from "The Island", and everyone having a clone to take needed 'parts' from. We aren't God and we shouldn't play Him either. The shoes are too big to fill for a reason.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35419Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:45:12 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35419Michael Mc GrathI will be 70 years old next November and my own dad died when I was just a year and four days old. Obviously, I never got to know my father and many, many times I wonder if my own life would have been any different had he lived. Would I have been a better, or possibly a worse individual. What influences (if any) would he have made on my character. As a "fatherless" one in this big world, I would tend to think that this should be MAINLY about the wishes of her dead son.....not being a grandmother, or any of the other "reasons" that I have read in this post. I have had to rely on "verbal" instructions/wishes in 4 or 5 instances with dealing with what I hoped were the "last wishes" of some of those gone before me. It is indeed a hard call, one that I am glad that I would not have to make. Try not to be too judgmental because the "story" may lay outside of your own personal tastes. Semper Fihttp://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35420Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:45:22 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35420Chris C., Memphis, TNMaybe she should be allowed to vote for her dead son for the rest of her natural life too! And then, we'll let the grandchild vote for them BOTH and so on! This is such a rediculous argument.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#35421Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:45:37 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:35421Pam- Washington DCGlory to God!! She is finally happy! It is going to be a blessed baby and a very loved baby. I am so happy for her.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36173Thu, 18 Jan 2007 20:42:11 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36173Julie'Grandma' has a sick obsession with her dead son...http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36175Thu, 18 Jan 2007 20:42:31 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36175Jim, New York New YorkThis is happening in Israel, so why is everyone in the US concerned one way or the other? It has nothing to do with us. That's 3/4 of the US problem we think everything is our problem.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36176Thu, 18 Jan 2007 20:42:41 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36176KimI understand her pain, but for me I wouldn't play God, theres to much responsabily that goes along with that. I can't say I wouldn't want the same thing if I where in her situation, but it's a good thing we all can't have what we want all the time, could you imagine the mess we'd all be in. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36177Thu, 18 Jan 2007 20:42:44 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36177Abby, Pittsburgh, PAWe (including the mother) do not know for sure that the son's expressed dream of fathering a child just prior to his death is to be interpreted that he would want a child regardless if he died. If so, the author would have included this important supporting information to the story. I would assume that his dream of "fathering" a child includes actively being involved as a living father, not just donating his sperm. Without him specifically stating so, how do we know that we are carrying out his real wishes. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36179Thu, 18 Jan 2007 20:43:14 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36179Tam Hea, Dallas TxAs a mother who has lost her son, I understand what the woman is going through. But I don't believe this is the answer. This baby will never know a father that can play catch, and show him daily love. The mother should probably have some counseling to help her through her lose.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36181Thu, 18 Jan 2007 20:44:53 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36181Angie - Louisville, KYJust what the world needs, another little science project.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36186Thu, 18 Jan 2007 20:46:26 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36186Jane Doe, Seattle, Wash.Just because science allows you to extract sperm from a dead person, doesn't mean you should do it. She is obviously trying to replace one life with another. Sorry, can't be done. The courts should have said no, plain and simple. And choosing a 35 year old women as the surrogate is creepy. If he didn't have a girlfriend that wanted to do it, then it is really sick to find some older women that he never would have had a relationship with, to be the mother of the child. The courts need to draw the lines of what should we do dispite what is possible or the 'Island' scenario is our future.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36187Thu, 18 Jan 2007 20:47:58 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36187Dawn, Rockville, MDThis is just really weird and how is this going to be explained to the child that it was created with a dead man's sperm because the grandmother wanted her dead son to have a child? She could have put her energies toward helping other fatherless children without bringing another one in to the world.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36188Thu, 18 Jan 2007 20:49:03 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36188Maria Espinoza San Jose, CAWe all have a lot of dreams and wishes but not all of us have the chance to live them out. The son wanted to be a father there is a difference between being a father and fathering a child. The experience of raising a child and being a sperm donor are very different. This is not the sons dream being lived out it is a weird interpretation of a mothers dream being pushed to happen. There is no way for her to know if her son would want to bring a child into the world without a father. There are better ways to let someone's memories live on.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36189Thu, 18 Jan 2007 20:49:07 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36189Juliann GettysThis is kind of creepy. Please tell me why you would like a dead mans sperm. This is creepy..http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36190Thu, 18 Jan 2007 20:49:55 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36190e.a., dallas, texasim kind of conflicted about this. i can understand her wanting to fulfill her son's wish to be a father but at the same time finding a random person who didnt know her son to mother the child doesnt make much sense. it would be one thing if he was married and his widowed wife gave birth after his death, she knew him and could tell her child about his/her father. but someone who doesnt know him? kind of odd seeing as how he didnt donate his sperm at a sperm bank but it was frozen at the request of his mother after his death. i understand her loss and the hurt she is feeling, and i understand that he was fighting for our country. i repect all of that, but i think the decision to allow a complete stranger to give birth to your dead son's child is a bit much. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36191Thu, 18 Jan 2007 20:51:42 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36191amy, miami flmy response here is not to say one way or the other what my feelings on the article are... but more to express the sickness in the pit of my stomach at some of the incredibly closed-minded responses here about what makes a family and what doesnt. many people are born into one parent families these days. get off your high horses and consider for a moment that you may not understand that the definition of "family" is not necessarily what you think it is. G'd is not nearly as judgemental about things as many of these responders are. would your G'd want you to judge this woman?http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36196Thu, 18 Jan 2007 20:55:01 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36196Rod, Horsham, PAI see a lot of comments on this issue. Some are pretty rude and thoughtless based on the writers' emotions or self-willed opinions. I for one do not wish to judge another's motive or state an opinion of that person. Rightfully, one can safely judge an act, but not the motive for that act. We simply don't have enough information to judge beyond the act. I would like to offer what I believe is solid reasoning for that grandmother to wish to have an offspring for her deceased son. First I would like you to consider the culture, the place and the information the Israeli court was privy of to render its decision. Having said that, I wish to refer you to a story in the Bible about Judah's son, Er. See Genesis 38:6-9. (by the way, they were Israelites). Er died without having an offspring, so it became his younger brother's duty to impregnate his wife and raise a name for him. Now, I know that in this case, Kevin (the deceased soldier) did not have a wife, but an argument could be made if the idea is to raise see unto someone so that his name is not forgotten in the earth, that similarities exist. I am glad that I don't have to make that choice and I want to consider that it must be hard for everyone involved to have to make that decision. After what is done is done, we have to move forward. With that, I wish peace and love and wisdom for this soldier's child who is to come, that this child would grow to be a blessing to the grandmother, mother or carrier (whatever the arrangement may be) and society at large. I pray that this child would not become a thorn, a disgrace or a point of contempt to all involved and society at large. In no way should the actions of this child to be born be placed on the shoulders of those who chose to decide in favor of having it. No one knows what a child will become. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36197Thu, 18 Jan 2007 20:56:23 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36197Bret Me, South BostonStupid story, and why do we care about stupid things like this in Israel? The "American" media is really an extension of the Zionist media, that's so true.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36199Thu, 18 Jan 2007 20:57:47 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36199Tiffany-Detroit, MIDid the son also wish to drive race cars or be a Dr.? Is Mom now going to insist on being allow to drive 250mph and perform surgery? The reality of life is death and the reality of death is that sometime we don't get to fulfill all of our dreams when we die young. Mom is trying to replace her son and need some serious psychotherapy to accept the fact that he is no longer with her and can't be brought back. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36201Thu, 18 Jan 2007 20:59:53 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36201Melanie HooverI don't understand.... who is going to raise the child? The mother? The grandmother? The spirit of the dead father? I pray that the child is healthy and sane...http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36202Thu, 18 Jan 2007 20:59:57 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36202jewell s, kansas city,kssociety has finally gone over the cliff. This lady represents a group of people that has lost their value of right and wrong.what happened to her son was tragic,but let's not subject an inocent child to another disaster. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36204Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:00:40 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36204Jane Youngstown, OH How will the natural Grandmother relate to this child ? After the child is born, what if the mother doesn't want the grandmother involved anymore ? I mean this is a woman who is going to carry a child for 9 months and bring it into the world; she is alive and well to raise the child; not the Grandmother. This will be her child regardless of the family situation. It sounds like the Grandmother is getting attached to the mental picture of what she think will be the outcome; when things may be different in reality. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36207Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:02:55 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36207CATHERINE K WARREN MICHIGANWELL MY THOUGHT WOULD BE WHY DOES ANYONE ELSE EVEN CARE!!!! THIS IS HER SON, AND HER GRANDCHILD. IF THIS DOES HAPPEN I THINK IT'S GREAT. GOD BLESS THEM. ROCK ON!!!!!!!!!!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36212Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:08:21 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36212adolph h., berlinAh yes! and while we are at we need to pre-screen all prospective parents to ensure that all offspring will be blonde-haired blue eyed caucasians with higher IQ(read aryan) and be taught the horrors of capitalism. Finally the people understand that to survive as a race we must engineer our future... (not so funny, humor)learn from the mistakes of others before you doom yourself (and children) to repeat them.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36213Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:08:28 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36213terryI think this is so wonderful to have a part of your son live on -- boy or girl this child will be wanted and loved - I hear a lot of talk about how sad its going to be for the child to be raised with out a father - I just have to wonder how many of the people that wrote in came from divorced parents and the mother had to raise the child or children by her self- or maybe conceived a child in or out of marriage and the father walked away -- how sad that is !! http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36225Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:17:02 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36225ashley, Washington DChey gigi, learn to read ... these people are from ISREAL not America.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36226Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:17:20 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36226Joelster, San Fran,CA.Why not keep the memories alive of the great son. But bringing a child into this world-fatherless. This lady is selfish. Let him rest in peace.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36230Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:20:47 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36230genie, tampa floridai can't say i feel this lady's pain because my son is alive and very healthy thank god,but i can understand the pain one must endure when you lose a loved one. especially your own child. i can't imagine my life without my son. but in fairness to the child. i don't agree. im sure her son wanted to be a father. but hes dead so is he really being a father? how can you be a father and your not alive? i think she should realize that her son is gone and not even artificially inseminating this woman will bring him back. my heart goes out to her but she must let go. she will be reunited with him once again in a much happier and better place. god bless.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36232Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:24:44 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36232Shari Bickell , Columbus IndianaKevin died for your rights, for your freedom as did too many others, why shouldnt his son have the same rights and freedom to live , as do all of you who disapprove. Have a happy life with your Grandson!!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36235Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:25:44 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36235Elaine, Sioux City, IAWhat about the life insurance from her son's death, with him having a child, wouldn't the child now be eligible for those benefits, I assume that even Israeli fighters have life insurance and with Mom being the sole survivor she probably already received & spent those benefits. I do understand her desire to want even a small piece of her son however she will never be able to replace him. Plus is there any quarantee that the "chosen mother" will always share the child with her. What if she moves away, marries someone else, there are just a lot of other issues that will arise from this arrangement. I do not know how Israel supports the children of military casualties, however if it is anything like America, there will be other financial benefits that would be paid out over that childs first 18 years to support it. Will the child be brought up with the same beliefs that her son had? There are just far too many unknowns out there for this to feel like the right thing to do. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36237Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:26:26 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36237Carissa , SIoux Falls SDThis is very sick and wrong!!!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36242Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:31:13 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36242Annita - WA StateIf this is what God wanted, He would've created it thousands of years ago. Instead he gave us free will...and sometimes (as in this case) that is really very scary.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36244Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:32:05 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36244Linda, AZI think that she deserves to be happy. War took her child! It's apparent by some of the comments above that you haven't had children or are you Grandparents - So how can you understand what she must be going through to lose her child. I'm a Grandmother and believe me, there is nothing more precious than your child giving you a Grandchild. Her son wanted her to have a grandchild and now he can give one to her. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36251Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:38:05 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36251Ken, Greenville, SCOK, so let's go through a mock conversation with the child as s/he becomes more aware of who they are (14 yrs old) Child: How come I don't have a daddy like other kids? GMom: He died serving our country. He was a hero. Child: But I was born 3 years after his death. How did that happen? GMom: Well, after a long legal battle and long interview process, I finally got your daddy's sperm from his dead body and a willing female host to birth you into this world. Child: Oh God! I AM a freak, just like the kids at school said! GMom: No, baby. You are a product of love. My love for your father, and my desire to fulfill his last request. Child: YOU MADE ME A FREAK AND I HATE YOU! I will never have a father, because he was already dead 3 YEARS before I was born. If he wanted me so bad, then I'll go join him right now! BANG!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36253Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:38:55 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36253ALBERTIF MOM WANTS A BABY LET HER HAVE ONE AND LET HER SON REST IN PEACEhttp://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36254Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:39:40 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36254susan m brownwood tx.i think this is great when my daddy died there were no more moss' to carry on the family name so our family history of moss' ended 25 years ago our family will go on but the moss name is no longer http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36255Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:40:26 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36255K. Wood , sacramento califWHAT A BUNCH OF MAMBY PAMBY WINEY BABIES. OOH CREEPY DAD'S CONSENT. GET OVER IT PEOPLE THAT'S THE PROBLEM WITH TODAY'S AMERICAN'S ABOSOLUTLY NO BACK BONE. HIS MOM DID A VERY COOL THING CARRING ON THE FAMILY. I HOPE THAT THE CHILD GROWS UP KNOWING THAT DAD DIED SO THAT HE OR SHE WOULD BE FREE.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36257Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:42:45 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36257Pam, KansasMy daughter has a boyfriend that plays college football. She has mentioned several times that they want to have 12 kids someday to make up a football team. If God forbid, and the worst should happen then I suppose I will have the "rights" to her eggs and will need to find a surrogate to produce 12 children to satisfy her wish? Or I could just tell all five of my daughters to "hand them over now" because I want to be a Grandma. It's not my place to judge, but my opinion is that this is not the way the Lord intended it to be. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36259Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:45:17 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36259D Perry,Phoenix AZHow selfish of this mother. Not only does this child not have a father he won't have a mother!!! How screwed up does she think this kid is going to be? Now adult children are going to have to protect their bodies and bodily fluids from their parents? This mother has no right to decide who the mother is going to be either. She needs help and the court in Israel was wrong to do this. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36261Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:46:13 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36261Kathy, Manitowoc, WIThis is wrong on so many levels. First, this mom needs help in coming to terms with the loss of her son. I don't think this was the son's wishes, to have his mom take his sperm, find a human incubater, just so she could be a grandma. I think in passing he may have said he wanted to be a father someday; this will not make him a father. He is dead, it only brings another fatherless child into the world and makes her a grandma. Second this poses all kinds of problems in raising the child. The child will have a mom, but who will really be running the show? Seems to me like this grandma will feel like she "owns" the child. What if the mom marries someday? How will the grandma feel then, when the child will have a dad who is alive and making decisions for him/her? No, this is wrong and weird. We are all dealt a hand in this life and a lot of times we don't like what we are dealt. But that is not our choice. If this man was supposed to have become a dad, then he would have met someone, fell madly in love, created a child out of the love of two people, and actually became a father. Is he going to help raise it from his grave? Does he even really care now that he is in the afterlife? Where is the womans husband (Kevin's dad)? Is there a "grandpa" in all this mess? This woman sounds lonely and depressed and desperate. This will not be a mentally healthy grandmother. I can't believe this is being allowed to happen! This woman should take all the money she has spent and will spend on this creepy situation and get some professional therapy. That will put her a much better place. And as for this surrogate, good luck with all this! This was NOT God's plan for these woman's lives. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36265Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:49:25 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36265Louise Thorpe, Brunswick, METhis shows the mentality of an obsessed person. She would certainly do more if she put all that effort in helping needed children in her son's name. That's all we need for this to perpetuate. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36266Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:50:24 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36266Amanda PaigeHer son "appears in a dream" and tells her he wanted a child. Oh Please! Its really all about her and her selfishness. This is the most idiotic thing I have ever heard of! http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36268Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:51:15 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36268Joe-Mansfield,OhThis woman is a head case. This is all about her,not her son.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36269Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:52:02 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36269Jennifer, St. Louis, MO I'm sorry - But what is this woman thinking? Deal with the greif and move on! Does she really think this is for the best. How much contact will she have with her grandson/daughter. And sorry to say - but what does the woman having the child want, really when the child is born - she has a free ticket to the US (thanks to grandma). Finally - What about the child! Children have questions - lots of questions - as the grow. What will the answers be - well honey, I wanted a grandchild and your father died before I got one so I fought for you and no your father never knew your mother so you were not conceived in love. SICK!! http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36271Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:52:42 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36271Mike BertolineSo much negativity in the responses! WHY? It's a beautiful story of a mother's deep love & devotion for her son! Unless we lost a son, or daughter, to a similar, tragic & very sad ending I don't think we can truly understand a mothers grief. And why shouldn't she see offspring of her son? Especially if was a wonderful person. And how about the woman that wanted a baby? Instead of getting donor sperm from an unknown source, she'll now belong to an extended family who seem to deeply love one another - what's wrong with that? http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36273Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:53:11 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36273ron since it was the soldier himself who wanted so much to become a father and got killed on the line of duty i believe it is proper to fulfill his wish im pretty sure the future child will be able to understand is father last wish i would. it's impossible to judge the mother since the 19 years old son never had a chance in his life to become a father due to such an important commitment as defending is country unfortunately he never came back. all she want's to fulfill his wish and make sure his tree of life will continue. it's a noble and honorable thing to do for your own son who gave his life for is country http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36275Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:56:03 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36275Linda H - Northfield, VTWhen each of my children were born there was no warranty or guarantee that these same children would produce off spring for MY benefit. I do not believe that she had any "rights" to make herself a grandmother. When I was 19 I said a lot of things that I thought I wanted, like 6 children. Now at 62 I'm quite happy I did not get all I wished for, 3 children was enough... http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36276Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:57:22 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36276Arthur, New York, NYIncredible. This so far from right it's astounding. Just because something is deemed legally doable doesn't make it a good idea.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36277Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:58:58 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36277Wil Cruz, Wilkes Barre, PennsylvaniaI think people should stop checking other peoples grammar and just read the freakin colums! And if you have a comment just make it regarding the issue at hand, geniuses!!!! Bye the way good for Grandma, I hope all your dreams come true with your future grand child. http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36279Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:59:38 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36279A RobinsonUh, He was Israeli and in the IDF. He was not defending the United States. This isn't happening here. It's happening in Israel. It's still creepy no matter where it is!http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36281Thu, 18 Jan 2007 22:01:26 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36281Jackie T, Harpers Ferry, WVIn every way, this goes against the cycle of life, and is biologically the most bizarre and unnatural thing I've ever heard. But, besides the biological aspects and the unnecessary pressure on this child as they are developing an identity, the decision was (supposedly) based on the wishes of a 19 year old. As I don't presume to speak for anyone I don't know, I can say that at 19, I wanted children. At 19, my husband wanted children. Now, in our 30's, we've made a decision to not have any. My point is this, who's to say that when the young man matured, his hopes would be the same. It should have been his decision at an age appropriate for him, not a decision made by anyone else, and it doesn't sound like the young man said to his mother in his dying breath that this was his wish.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36282Thu, 18 Jan 2007 22:02:59 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36282Margarita German, La Puente, CaliforniaWhen people think of "the end of the world", depending who you are and where you come from this may have many different meanings, some are even waiting for fire, floods, wars, illness, all the horrible endings you can think of and some even have a time line, in the year 2000, in twenty year. No one thinks of things like this happening as the end of the world. People who freeze sperm, choosing the sex(eye color) of an unborn child, cloning, stem cell research, sex change operations, incest, rape, Iraq, 9/11, global warming, I'd have to say truly those issues constitute a slow end of the world and essentially the end of "our world". What are we doing about it, absolutely nothing, because we are totally blind! (blind by convenience) Having the children of the dead, did he say what nationality, what hair color, what sex, how tall or short, boy or girl? I mean make sure you get it right and that you make all his wishes come true you don't want to disappoint him. What's next?........http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36283Thu, 18 Jan 2007 22:07:08 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36283Jim H. Big Rapids Mi.The mothers description doesnt pinpoint the length of time after her son's death before the sperm were retrieved. I'm no expert, but I believe this has to be done quite soon to obtain viable sperm. Her narrative implies that a year or longer had elapsed and I do not think that sperm live that long after the donors demise.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36287Thu, 18 Jan 2007 22:09:47 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36287Y.Hoffman, Graham, WAThe mother need a serious counseling. I would understand, maybe a wife wants a child from her dead husbands sperm but a mother? I smell another court battle. This time custody over the child! http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36296Thu, 18 Jan 2007 22:19:37 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36296JamesSo what if the kid never knows its father. Wait until he or she grows up and ask them if they would rather be dead. Most likely, they will be glad to exist, whatever the method of their arrival.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36651Fri, 19 Jan 2007 15:34:38 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36651Chris C, Memphis, TNThis is our problem...no matter what country it is in. Once a sovereign nation's court upholds a verdict such as this, it can be used as an example in U.S. courts to help some crazy, left-wing, liberal nut job, who wants the government to be involved in everything and give everybody handouts that doesn't deserve them, steal their child's sperm for frankenstein-like creations.http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#36721Fri, 19 Jan 2007 16:26:09 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:36721gunner el paso,txSo now that she found someone to conceive this child.. what do you think would happen if this woman takes off with the child and the grandmother never sees her again.. that would be another story.. so my ? is does the mother of this child have parental rights or the grandmother? will the mother/grandmother try to get full custody, to replace her son's legacy. if you think about it she went through all this trouble to get this done and is she willing to have someone carry and care for his child without having a say on who the child will be living with. If that happened then we will see that on the OPRA show..http://worldblog.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/01/18/33735.aspx#264342Tue, 10 Jul 2007 18:08:08 GMT8a5d2dbc-a0e4-4c7a-979f-3188051f228e:264342AshleY Miller Jackson, MsI just dont believe that this is right.  The story is great and the idea seems so amazing at first.  In reality, spiritually I dont believe this is ok.  I believe in God's word.  Im a christian.  No, I dont beat people over the head with my values but I voice them when asked.  Children are blessings from God intended for husband and wife to enjoy and raise families.  It is not intended this way.  Im a single mother so no Im not perfect.  This is the way it is supposed to be, though.